Before sobriety and New Life, a technique used in dealing with problems was much like the quote with the hammer; assailing any trouble with an attempt to escape. The initial impulse was to complain, then drag as many people into the situation as possible while trying to get them on *my side*. Avoidance soon became the norm until something else took its place, which usually was a consequence of a problem that I was already trying to evade. Alcohol perpetuated this cycle, creating emotional burdens and the desire to escape.
Women for Sobriety provides new tools for managing problems, and Statement #4 leads the way. Affirming understanding and ability, Jean provides an avenue for solution by stating, “I do not permit problems to overwhelm me.” Instead of retreating into alcohol with doubt or escape, problems now can be managed and moved through.
With the practice of Statement #4, new tools come to light. Sometimes what is learned solving one problem can aid in another. This Statement can also lessen feelings of doubt. Often, I had doubted an ability to solve something, yet solving even the smallest of problems heightened my feelings of confidence, which then spurred more energy to solve another. While this Statement does not say how to solve, it can cement the belief that anyone can solve problems.
Here is a 4-part approach for problem solving:
1. Define the problem: Do I have all the information? Is the problem a symptom of something deeper?
2. Collect solutions: Oftentimes the first solution identified is not necessarily the best. Can brainstorming help?
3. Decide and Try: Try, while breaking down a problem into manageable and solvable smaller problems. It is much easier to take one bite of an elephant than trying to eat the whole thing.
4. Evaluate: What worked and what didn’t? What did I learn? What can I try to do differently?
Hugzzz
Karen
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