Monday, June 10, 2013
June 10
Psalms 74:4
Thine enemies roar in the midst of thy congregations; they set up their ensigns for signs.
The pastor felt the focus of the church year should be missions. Definitely missions. The head of the church school wanted education to be the main concern. Finance felt that stewardship was the ticket. Each committee of the church had its own banner to wave. The conflicts that arose over the issue left deep wounds, and some left the church. The different groups sat together on Sunday morning, but they left the sanctuary engaged in bitter argument.
What kind of behavior is that for Christians? We are supposed to rise above the pettiness that rules the outside world. If we cannot learn to deal with one another in love, what business have we calling ourselves Christ's church? Our Lord is a Lord of compromise, sacrifice, and caring. No Christian should be our enemy. We are all members of the same body, and Christ blesses those who strive to live in peace and harmony with one another.
Prayer: Remind me, Lord, that I am a Christian first and foremost. The causes I support are second to the fact that I follow Jesus Christ. Let Him rule in my heart, and lead me in the ways I should walk. Amen.
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Ask4Recovery – 6/10/13 – I am living in a cycle of shame and guilt with my addiction. How do I break it?by Ask4Recovery
Hello friends! Today’s ‘Ask’…
I am living in a cycle of shame and guilt with my addiction. How do I break it?
I know that cycle quite well and it is no fun to be in. It is not conducive to living a life of freedom. Rather, we are suffering, which is not what we were put here to do. We each have an infinite source of love, hope, compassion, and patience inside of us. Addictions block off that infinite source. They also contribute to an intense cycle of guilt and shame because, at the core of it, we are not being true to ourselves in any capacity. This brings out anger, frustration, sadness, and destruction, all of which are qualities that propel and enable the addiction.
For many years, when I was living in that cycle, I did not know what to do. I did not know another way of living was possible because as much as the addictions brought about the shame, they also brought about a distorted sense of gratification and control. That gratification was really just disconnection from myself. What helped me most was ‘outing’ the addiction. Letting go of that cycle of self-defeating control and letting go of those maladaptive coping behaviors and understanding what was really going on with me. The destructive behaviors were all part of the manifestation of the intense discomfort, disconnection, and facade I had between my mind, body, and soul. By getting in touch with myself on a deeper level, I slowly began to peel away the layers of the onion and shred away that cycle of guilt and shame because for the first time, I was being true to myself.
This takes time. We are creatures of habit and we can train ourselves to start acting and thinking differently. For me, my addictions became so familiar in my life that I became unconscious in my life. By stepping into the unfamiliar and seeing my life without my addictions, I slowly became more conscious and awake in my life. And as this happened, the guilt and shame cycle started to break as well.
How did you break out of your addiction? The guilt and shame cycle? Let us know and join the movement!
Sending love,
Lauren
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Saturday, June 8, 2013
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Ask4Recovery – 6/8/13 – Why does an addict have such a short memory of the damages from using?by Ask4Recovery |
Hello friends! Today’s ‘Ask’…
"Why
does an addict have such a short memory of the damages from using? I'm
clean for weeks or months, stress up and craving comes out of nowhere. I
bargain, lose and then use. Why?" – A fellow Ask4Recovery member
That
is a wonderful question! It is pretty amazing where our minds can take
us. Where that destructive thinking can take us. How we can so easily
lose sight of those weeks or months or years that we have clean and the
addiction mindset can take over and bring us right back to the thought
that engaging in something destructive will make everything better.
Well, that is ‘old pattern’ thinking and thinking that is going to get
me nowhere! That is thinking that is not conducive to my recovery and I
need to shift that thinking when it creeps in. I have to release the
thought or craving and trust that my higher power will restore me to
sanity.
For
me, when those thoughts and that thinking come up, I have to take a
step back and ask myself, ‘What is really coming up for me?’ The alcohol
or the drug craving is part of the solution for the addict mindset, but
not part of the solution for the recovery mindset. Given I am in the
recovery mindset, this means sitting with those uncomfortable feelings
that I escaped from for so long. But by sitting with these feelings, I
am unlocking my true and authentic self and accepting myself on a whole
new playing field. I recently moved into my own apartment and my
destructive thinking is making an appearance. It is trying to take
advantage of me being on my own, telling me that I can’t do it, I’m not
good enough, and the list goes on. Now, I can acknowledge these
thoughts, realize they are not me, and release them because I know that a
thought or craving no longer directly translates to a self-sabotaging
action. It is so freeing!
I
also have to remember that I am not alone. My addict mind likes to make
me think that I am and I watch as my world can get smaller and smaller
until it is just me. But the reality is that there is a community of
people that truly care about me and when that craving comes up, I talk
about it, release the craving, and watch as that desire to use
diminishes. It takes honesty though. And willingness. But it works and
we can switch the selfish and ego-driven attitude to one of gratitude!
What do you do when a craving or urge comes up? How do you stay in recovery? Let us know and join the movement!
Sending love,
Lauren
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Thursday, June 6, 2013
Bill Aimed at Preventing Stolen or Counterfeit Prescription Drugs Passes U.S. House
A bill designed to increase the security of the prescription drug supply chain, to prevent stolen or counterfeit drugs, passed the U.S. House this week.The measure requires companies along the supply chain to verify the drugs are authentic, and notify authorities if they find suspect or illegitimate drugs, Reuters reports. Drugs would be traced down to the level of lots, which can include thousands of bottles, or packs of vials, the article notes.
A Senate version of the bill was passed by committee last month. It is not known when it will be brought to the full Senate floor. That bill would require each individual drug unit to be traceable, after an initial phase-in period.
Past measures aimed at creating national standards for drug tracking have failed after companies said they would be too expensive.
Major League Baseball Wants to Suspend About 20 Players Over Doping: ESPN
Both players deny using performance-enhancing drugs, according to CNN. MLB may seek 100-game suspensions for all of the players, who are expected to fight the move, according to ESPN.
The players are connected with a Miami-area clinic, Biogenesis of America, which is now closed. In January, a Florida newspaper reported Rodriguez and Braun obtained performance-enhancing drugs from Biogenesis. MLB filed a suit against Biogenesis for allegedly providing performance-enhancing drugs to players, and advising them on how to pass drug tests. The clinic’s owner, Tony Bosch, reached an agreement to cooperate with a MLB investigation, the article notes. The league may drop the suit, ESPN reports.
In January, MLB and its players union announced they reached an agreement to conduct in-season blood testing of players for human growth hormone. Players also will be tested for synthetic testosterone, which is increasingly popular because it washes out of the body fairly quickly after being used.
Major League Baseball was the first major sport in the United States to agree to human growth hormone testing. It reached an agreement with its union in November 2011 to test for the substance, but only in spring training and the off-season. The new agreement expands the testing into the baseball season.
Human growth hormone can help players build muscle mass, and to recover quickly from extended physical activity. It cannot be used legally without a prescription.
Wednesday, June 5, 2013
Young Adults Should Look for 12-Step Groups With Peers, Expert Advises
Only two percent of AA and NA members are under age 20, and 13 percent are under age 30, says John Kelly, PhD, Associate Professor in Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School and Director of the Addiction Recovery Management Service at Massachusetts General Hospital. “Young people are a minority in these groups, so they may find it more difficult initially to identify with members who are older and have different challenges, such as children, elderly parents and job loss,” said Dr. Kelly.
Because of this potential mismatch, he recommends young people who are looking to start participating in a 12-step program, whenever possible, begin with meetings that are specially designated for young people, to help them feel connected and engaged. “After this initial engagement, however, young adults may find it more beneficial to branch out to more mixed-age meetings,” he says. “Older people are more likely to have long-term sobriety, and generally have greater life experience and wisdom. Our recent findings support the notion that age similarity is good for early engagement and for enhancing sobriety, but confers less benefit in the long term.”
At the recent National Association of Addiction Treatment Providers meeting, Dr. Kelly presented research he conducted with 300 young adults, ages 18 to 24, which looked at participation and involvement in 12-step programs following inpatient substance use disorder (SUD) treatment. He found high rates of attendance and involvement—speaking up at meetings—was correlated with even more days of abstinence. The study, published in the journal Drug and Alcohol Dependence, found the effect of attendance diminished over time, but the effect of involvement increased. The study also found having contact with group members outside of meetings also benefited young adults.
John
Kelly, PhD, Associate Professor in Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School
and Director of the Addiction Recovery Management Service at
Massachusetts General Hospital
A second study, which has not yet been published, found young adults who attended meetings that had at least some people in the same age range during their first three months after treatment had better abstinence rates than those who attended meetings only with older members. The age-matching effect diminished over the next nine months.
His findings with young adults are similar to those in a study Dr. Kelly published last year that found teens in addiction treatment can benefit from 12-step programs. The study included 127 teens who were outpatients in substance use disorder treatment programs. They were assessed when they entered treatment, and again three, six and 12 months later. The researchers found greater meeting attendance was independently associated with significantly better substance use outcomes. Those who were in contact with a sponsor from AA or NA or who participated verbally during meetings had an even better outcome over and above the positive effects from merely attending meetings.
Dr. Kelly also presented data from a third study, also not yet published, that followed 300 young adults with substance use disorders, half of whom also had a dual diagnosis—most commonly a mood or anxiety disorder. Overall, patients with dual diagnosis attended as much and became as involved as those with only an SUD diagnosis, but had generally worse outcomes. Those with a dual diagnosis who had a high level of involvement in a 12-step program, however, had outcomes as good as those with only a substance use disorder, Dr. Kelly says. “This suggests that, for some, a strong and active connection with AA or NA can potentially offset a worse recovery prognosis for those with a dual diagnosis.”
“The good news is that clinicians can influence the likelihood that young people will attend 12-step meetings. If they do attend, they are likely to have improved outcomes,” Dr. Kelly observes. “If they educate, prepare and actively link young people with meetings, they are likely to increase the chances for better outcomes in the year after treatment.”
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"Remember not
the former things, nor consider the things of old. Behold, I am doing a
new thing; now it springs forth, do you not perceive it? I will make a
way in the wilderness and rivers in the desert. The wild beasts will
honor me, the jackals and the ostriches, for I give water in the
wilderness, rivers in the desert, to give drink to my chosen people, the
people whom I formed for myself that they might declare my praise."
-Isaiah 43:18-20
Greetings in the name of Jesus,
My wife and I went to a
college where graduation was called Commencement. This past weekend
here at His Mansion, during the graduation charge, Todd Battles,
Director of Counseling and Christian Formation, spoke again of
commencement. This concept that graduation, although a joyful, exciting
celebration of 12 months of hard work, blood, sweat and tears, and the
process of rebuilding the hearts, minds, wills and lives of our
residents, is more significantly the beginning of something even
greater, because of Someone greater.
Men and women come to
His Mansion broken and desperate. It often takes hitting "rock bottom"
for one to even consider the notion of entering a year-long residential
recovery program. Five days after graduation, eleven men and six women
entered our community in need of healing and with more than a hint of
fear and skepticism, yet they came nonetheless seeking hope. The deep
need and desire of each is healing from addiction, wounds of the heart
and soul, fractured relationships, emotional pain and often
acknowledging a bankrupt faith or spirituality.
What these men and
women become physically a part of and slowly but surely embedded in, is a
Christ-centered healing community. What does that entail? That means
that we, both residents and staff, live in close proximity to each
other. In some cases that distance is the four feet between a top bunk
and a bottom bunk in the dorm but no farther apart than 400 yards, the
distance between the two furthest staff dwellings. We partake in table
fellowship together three times a day and learn what healthy
conversations between sisters and brothers can be like. We work together
tending our plot of land and all that resides on it, the buildings, the
animals, the plants, the woods and our homes. We also tend to each
other in classes and counseling, both individually and in groups. In the
office, we tend to the needs of visitors, work groups, prospective
residents and staff. We also tend to the financial, relational and
logistical aspects of every person in the His Mansion family. All that
said, the heart of what we do and why we do it is rooted in the person
and work of Jesus Christ. We see this beautiful, messy, integrated
community as laboring in vain if the Triune God isn't at the center and
the living Word as our holy, loving guide.
We desire your prayers
for all the concluding and commencing that is happening in this season.
We desire that the name of Jesus Christ might be on our lips and He
would be meeting us in our hearts as we do the daily work of the Gospel
in a community of persons at His Mansion Ministries.
It was with great joy and praise to our Lord for the work that He has
begun, that we recently celebrated the graduation of 2 women and 4 men
from the His Mansion program. During the ceremony, each graduate
testified to the transformative work of Jesus that they experienced in
the last year. This will serve as the foundation from which they will
launch and begin their life beyond the structure of the His Mansion
community. Several of these graduates will soon return to the hill to
serve in a very different role. They will enter the Servant Leader
program, a transitional program designed to offer guidance and growth
and develop maturity while on the path to serving as a Mentor.
The words shared
during one particular testimony have continued to remain with me as I
was deeply encouraged by God's love as it was experienced by this
graduate. I hope that as you read these words that were shared on
graduation day, you too are not only touched by them but left feeling
awestruck at what our great God can and will redeem us from as He offers
a new life and a new beginning only found in Jesus Christ.
In May
of 2012, I arrived at His Mansion with multiple problems, in hopes of
somehow finding resolve...I was convinced no one could help me, and the
idea of being a loner or independent became a comfortable place. There,
no one could hurt me, but no one could help me either. I had closed the
depth of myself off to everyone. Yet God was still able to penetrate the
barriers I had put up, and it was in that place of isolation where he
met me and rescued me.
Slowly
but surely, God taught me that community was part of his form of
healing. I couldn't imagine how being around thirty-plus other men all
the time would ever bring about healing, but it has certainly been a
part of it. As time here has progressed, I have come to see that it is
not the men around me, but it is God in the men around me, and as I have
been able to learn to trust them more with what they say about my life,
I am also learning to trust in God...
Through
the year here, I often wrote in my journals about an impenetrable
darkness that dwelled deep inside the core of my being. I felt it, and I
couldn't get rid of it. I thought it was a permanent fixture of who I
was. It was ever pulling me away from following God and ever resisting
all of the good I was doing through prayer, reading the Bible, and
living honestly with others. Yet somewhere back in January, right around
the same time that I was able to have the conversation with my dad, and
right around the time when we were breaking soul ties in our Phase II
Inner Healing class, I was searching my heart in prayer, and I found
that the impenetrable darkness of shame was conspicuously missing. I had
no explanation for it, and I finally understood that God had done a
quiet miracle in me one day and was waiting for me to discover it.
Praise the Lord! In its absence, I feel incredibly unburdened and
equipped with an ability to follow God. I am thankful and know that if
God can extricate this driving evil that was in the core of my being, he
gives me hope to believe in him to do other things that I would
normally think are impossible; it's only a matter of time and waiting.
With
this hope, God has given me an endurance I have never known before to
continue to practice all of the ways in which he is teaching me to live.
The layers are still coming off. God is showing me new and often
difficult things about myself, like what has gone wrong, and what I need
to do to allow him to fix it. Often, I have heard these different
depths of healing in my life compared to an onion peeling back its many
stinky layers, but I like to look at it like a blooming rose, ever
opening more and more layers of petals, ever increasing in beauty. This
is a work of the Lord, and only a small example of what he's doing
within all the people on this hill, and in the body of Christ around the
world. I give him praise for this journey upon which he has started me,
and I look forward to seeing and being a part of how he will continue
it.
June marks the arrival
of our summer Practicum students from all around the country. During
their eight weeks at His Mansion, the Lord will take them on a journey
that will deeply impact their spiritual, educational and vocational
growth. I have asked Dave McHale, His Mansion Institute Program
Supervisor (and also a past Practicum student himself) to share about
the unique nature of this opportunity and experience.
Imagine a professional baseball player in training who reads books on
how to swing a bat, watches videos, observes others at batting practice,
studies the physics behind a good swing (bat speed, swing angle, etc.),
but has never actually picked up a bat himself and swung it. How good
of a hitter is he going to be? How confident will he be when he stands
in the batter's box for the first time, facing a 95 MPH pitcher, having
never actually swung the piece of wood he holds in his hands?
Most
people will agree that education, study, and preparation are good (and
necessary). However, knowledge without experience and action yields
little in the long run. In the same way, a person who learns and studies
much about the topics of psychology, Christian formation, education,
and counseling, is well-prepared, yet will be for the most part
ineffective unless they put into practice what they have learned.
And for
this reason, at His Mansion, we welcome students from all over the
country to serve with us for the summer in our Practicum. Practicum
students get opportunities to serve on the ground in ministry, allowing
them to learn what it looks like to take that which has been learned and
studied in the classroom and put it into practice. The practicum
provides a platform for practical ministry experience, as well as helps
some discern if they are called into one of the helping professions.
Students
are encouraged to wrestle through questions that naturally arise in an
environment like His Mansion such as "Where and how is God at work in
situations of profound suffering?", "How do I walk alongside a person
who is struggling with an addiction I have never experienced?" and "How
do I love and have compassion for a person who is so difficult?"
We will be welcoming eight new practicum students to our community on June 8th
to serve for eight weeks. They will be participating in our June
Healing in the Context of Community course, after which they will begin
serving in a similar capacity to that of a mentor. Please join us in
praying that the Lord would work in their hearts and in the hearts of
those they will serve. Pray that the Lord would not only teach them to
love, but also that He might show them more of the glory of His love for
each of them in Jesus through their time at His Mansion.
Although the first official day of summer is not until June 21st,
here on the Hill we recognize summer as beginning when we welcome our
first "summer" work group into the community. This year, a week-long
visit by a hard working group of volunteers from Big Bone Baptist Church
of Union, KY marked this kick off of summer. It was a blessing to have
several repeat volunteers as a part of the group but to also have a few
new faces too. Work groups come with the intent to serve us by working
in our community yet the exciting thing is to see how God also ministers
to each volunteer during their time here as well. Prior to coming, each
person is asked the question, "What do you hope for God to accomplish
in your heart while you're here?" The members of the Big Bone Baptist
group came with some of the following hopes and desires:
- To draw me closer to Him and to have a servant's heart in all that I do
- Direction
- To grow in Christ
- To see Him move in my heart as well as our group and the (His Mansion) residents
- To help me share my heart and to help me learn by other's experience
- To serve without limitations and help others do the same
- To learn more about our Loving God
We are so thankful for the visit from Big Bone Baptist and
for the hard work they each put into their time here. In much the same
way, we are so thankful to each of you who read this newsletter, pray
for the ministry, and sacrificially give of what God has given you. As I
conclude this letter, I am again humbled by God's daily provision, and
it engenders in me a heart of gratefulness to write that we have paid
all our bills. This speaks volumes about God's faithfulness to you and
to us.
Seeking to live grace and truth in community,
Michael Tso
Interim CEO
Tuesday, June 4, 2013
More Children Being Accidentally Poisoned by Opioids and Other Adult Medications
More than 70,000 children under 18 go to the emergency room because of accidental medication exposures and poisonings each year, according to researchers from Boston Children’s Hospital. They report in Pediatrics the rate of such visits rose 30 percent between 2001 and 2008. Hospitalization rates for accidental poisonings in children rose 36 percent, USA Today reports.
Serious injuries and hospitalizations occurred most frequently with opioids and diabetes medications. “Increasing adult drug prescriptions are strongly associated with rising pediatric exposures and poisonings, particularly for opioids and among children 0 to 5 years old,” the researchers wrote. “These associations have sizable impacts, including high rates of serious injury and health care use.”
The study excluded antidepressants, because they are increasingly prescribed for young people. The researchers wanted to look at drugs that generally are prescribed for adults. The researchers found children under age 5 were most at risk for poisoning, followed by teens ages 13 to 19.
Study co-author Florence Bourgeois said young children generally are accidentally poisoned when they swallow drugs they find while exploring, while teens tend to seek out drugs such as opioids and intentionally take them.
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Today’s ‘Ask’
I have a really hard time sitting with myself. My mind
likes to make the best of me during these moments and I can easily lose
sight of my recovery. What do I do?
Truly sitting with myself is not always easy, especially in recovery. For so long, I looked to escape from myself. To disconnect from myself. I did not like the person I was and thus, the last thing I ever wanted to do was be alone and in my own company. It felt like hell. In recovery, I have to sit with anger, with frustration, with sadness, and with feeling in general! To go from years of never truly feeling or being with myself because I always had my addictions to engage in, to sitting with myself has been a major adjustment. But an adjustment I could not be more thankful for and one that has skyrocketed me into living the life I was put here to live.
By sitting with myself I am getting to know myself. Getting to understand the inner workings of my mind a little more. My ego a little more. I can now discern between when my heart is talking and when my mind is talking. This is something I was never able to do and it is because I have learned to be patient with myself. Learned that thoughts come and go into the mind and I don’t have to always listen to them. Triggers happen and I don’t have to self-sabotage because of them. I can challenge them in a whole new capacity. So, as hard as it is to sit with myself, this is where the true healing and growth takes place for me. In the end, all we have is ourselves and this is where the foundation of recovery is really started.
What do you do when you are alone with yourself? How do you stay in recovery?
Have an ‘Ask’ for me? Send me an email @ ask4recovery1@gmail.com!
Truly sitting with myself is not always easy, especially in recovery. For so long, I looked to escape from myself. To disconnect from myself. I did not like the person I was and thus, the last thing I ever wanted to do was be alone and in my own company. It felt like hell. In recovery, I have to sit with anger, with frustration, with sadness, and with feeling in general! To go from years of never truly feeling or being with myself because I always had my addictions to engage in, to sitting with myself has been a major adjustment. But an adjustment I could not be more thankful for and one that has skyrocketed me into living the life I was put here to live.
By sitting with myself I am getting to know myself. Getting to understand the inner workings of my mind a little more. My ego a little more. I can now discern between when my heart is talking and when my mind is talking. This is something I was never able to do and it is because I have learned to be patient with myself. Learned that thoughts come and go into the mind and I don’t have to always listen to them. Triggers happen and I don’t have to self-sabotage because of them. I can challenge them in a whole new capacity. So, as hard as it is to sit with myself, this is where the true healing and growth takes place for me. In the end, all we have is ourselves and this is where the foundation of recovery is really started.
What do you do when you are alone with yourself? How do you stay in recovery?
Have an ‘Ask’ for me? Send me an email @ ask4recovery1@gmail.com!
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Monday, June 3, 2013
Friday, May 31, 2013
May 31
Psalms 69:4They that hate me without a cause are more than the hairs of min head: they that would destroy me, being mine enemies wrongfully, are mighty: then I restored that which I took not away.
Being king isn't easy. Either people love you or they hate you. The
same is true of every position of power and authority. Presidents,
deans, prime ministers-the list can go on and on-all these people have
to face the passions of the people they lead. Even God, Himself, has to
face such problems. God is not loved by everyone. There are those who,
for whatever reason, have chosen to reject God. There are those who
curse Him as regularly as we praise Him. We are the subjects of the
greatest sovereign in creation. Our Lord rules us with justice and love.
We might not agree with everything He does or everything He calls us to
do, but we owe Him our allegiance and loyalty. Be loyal to the Lord,
and He will rule over you justly and with compassion.
Prayer: It is easy to bow down befo re a ruler of such
love and grace, Lord. In every age, You have ruled fairly. I pray for
all those who do not know Your greatness and Your goodness. Break
through with Your light into their lives. Amen.
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