Tuesday, October 7, 2014

    
For Families Dealing with Grief.....
Beginning this week, COA will host a new meeting for people who have lost a loved one due to substance abuse.

 
The Hamilton Township NJ GRASP (Grief Recovery After Substance Passing) Chapter
will be located at The Raymond Dwier Center, 392 Church Street, Hamilton Township, NJ  08620. Meetings will be held the 2nd Thursday of every month beginning this Thursday, October 9th, from7:00pm until 9:00pm.  Anyone who would like to attend has to pre-register by calling Laurie Latham at 609-575-5477 or Sue Fares at 609-203-2950.  This is a support group for those coping with the loss of a loved one due to drugs.

Listen to Dave Hentosh, of GRASP Bucks County, talk about grief in two special shows on COA Recovery Radio. To listen to Part I, click here; for Part II, click here.
Merchandise Donations Wanted!

Would you like to donate to a worthy cause but not able to give cash? City of Angels NJ, Inc. now accepts donations of merchandise!

We are looking for high-value items we can re-sell to fund our operations and provide treatment scholarships to individuals without other resources. 

So far, we've successfully sold exercise and sporting equipment, electronics, watches and more.....

If you have an item you would like to donate, please contactCityofAngelsNJ@hotmail.com
On COARR 
Let's Talk About Recovery!

With 10 original shows, COARR plays Recovery Talk 24/7/365....past shows are available online atwww.coaradio.com/pastshows.html and in each show's online archive. 

Tune in thru the smartphone app (free in the iphone/droid stores) or on www.coaradio.com to hear what's playing now.....

Coming in mid October: "Solutions" with Michael DeLeon! Mike is the producer of "Kids Are Dying", a powerful documentary about the drug epidemic in America; he is also the founder of Steered Straight, a non-profit organization that works to prevent drug abuse; and a tireless advocate for legislative reform. "Solutions" will focus on concrete actions that can be taken now to address this problem and feature key leaders & decision makers from across New Jersey and the Tri-State area.

 


NOW ON COARR!

Every Saturday night....a show dedicated to healing from childhood sexual abuse.

Lynn W. shares her powerful story, speaks with others who have been abused and have been affected by abuse, and begins the healing process. 

Tune into new shows atwww.coaradio.com. Listen to past shows at www.coaradio.com/pastshows.html.

To learn more about SFTP, click the image at right to watch a short video clip.
CJ Non Profit Stop Feeding the Predators
CJ Non Profit Stop Feeding the Predators
   
Listen to past COARR shows any time:

For "Women & Addiction" with Terri Thomas, click here.

For "Wellness in Recovery" with life coach Nancy Tilelli, click here.

For "Journey Thru the 12 Steps with the Life Recovery Bible," click here.

For "Share Your Scars" with Vicki, click here.

For "Wings Over Water: Creativity in Recovery" with recovery musician Kathy Moser, click here.

For "Laughter & Recovery" with stand up comic Wil B. Kleen, click here.

For "Relationships in Recovery" with Alexa, click here.

For "Saving Lives" with COA Director of Interventions Tom Redneck Clark, click here.



Greetings,

We have an exciting new group at the Philadelphia Recovery Community Center called Beating The Blues.


Everyday issues, stress and anxiety can build up until they take over your life.

PRO-ACT is proud to host Beating the Blues, a free 8-session program to teach you how to handle life’s bumps and stop them from before you fall flat on your face. AND if you’ve already fallen, you’ll learn how to get back up.

Beating the Blues is a computer-based program that will teach you, step-by-step, how to manage the big and little issues that seem to consume your life. You will also learn how to look at life in a more positive way that can only result in more positive actions. Sign up now.

Sometimes it all just seems to be too much.

It feels like every step forward is followed by two steps backwards.


Beating the Blues is brought to by the Mental Health Association of Southeastern PA—a leader in peer-driven services and made possible by funding from DBHIDS.


Class Information

Classes are every Monday beginning at 12:30PM and running to 2:00 PM. The first class is October 20th. The program is only 8 sessions. Please call 215-223-7700 to register or If you have any questions.


PRO-ACT Philadelphia Recovery Community Center

1701 W. Lehigh Ave., Unit 6, Philadelphia, PA 19119 215-223-7700

Monday, October 6, 2014




Daily Quote

"Every thought you have makes up some segment of the world you see. It is with your thoughts, then, that we must work, if your perception of the world is to be changed." - "A Course In Miracles"


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Sunday, October 5, 2014

October 5 Chp 51 v 17 TWELVE STEPPING WITH STRENGTH FROM THE PSALM


The sacrifice you desire is a broken spirit.You will not reject a broken and repentant heart ,O God .


STEP 1 - We admitted we were powerless over our addiction - that our lives had become unmanageable.


I have said it before and I will say it again. Addiction is the By-product of a broken heart and a very hard head . Many of our prayers go unanswered because we are too busy playing God .God cant fix your broken heart and remove the desire to use if your playing his part .In the Psalm God is giving you a promise that you will not be rejected if your step 1 is sincere from a broken heart .Getting the heart broken is one of the easiest things we do to ourselves. Denial and Pride are two of the most common heart breakers in the world. Throw in outside sources such as abusive addictive parents to your mix and you will wind up with a prideful self preserving person with a iron clad impenetrable heart .Surrender and brokenness are Gods key to removing your self medicating ways .The blinders are gonna have to come off and if your not willing to remove them God will do it for you through your foolishness. You are the greatest of all his creations.The gift of life he has freely given you is not to be lived defeated , addicted , and way below your potential. Intelligence is one of the gifts we have been given but your pride has strangled it into submission and left you stuck in self defeating ways. When your down and only then God will pick you back up again ,brush you off dry your tears and put you back together again.


Proverb 4: 23 Keep thy heart with all diligence, for out of it are the issues of life.
By Joseph Dickerson

Miley Cyrus' ‘Dirty Hippie’ Art Show Featured Illegal Drugs
The pop singer's display featured a bead-covered bong and tabs of LSD.

Miley's "art". Photo via



10/03/14





Miley Cyrus’ “Dirty Hippie” art show that premiered on Sept. 10 in Manhattan during New York Fashion Week was clearly designed to shock. 

During an interview with V Magazine, Miley Cyrus showed a number of the pieces that were part of the show that the magazine described as “a psychedelic jungle.” The question is why so many of the pieces actually include illegal drugs like pharmaceutical pills, tabs of acid, and blunts.

In the interview, Miley Cyrus explained her wild child approach to making art. “During that 4th of July party, I saw this party hat and I thought it might be fun to glue some shit onto it. I just made it for myself to wear. And then someone was like, Oh this is great, you should keep going… [Pointing] There are drugs in that, and then there’s a blunt.” 

As a self-proclaimed pothead and proponent of Molly in her songs, Miley glued some of the drugs to the sculptures. In the show, it was hard to see the specific drugs because they had been painted over and thrown into a chaotic array of stuff from the life of Cyrus. Nevertheless, nobody could mistake the five-foot bong standing proud in a corner as anything other than a five-foot bong.

Cyrus often posts pictures of her colorful artwork on Instagram, and the five-foot bong covered in beads and knick-knacks has been included as well. The premier of the small exhibit took place in conjunction with Jeremy Scott’s fashion show at the height of Fashion Week. The show can still be seen as it remains on display at the V Magazine office’s gallery in New York City.

Although Cyrus has claimed the show proves that she is more than just some “pop dumb dumb,” there is an argument to be made that including drugs in a show that will be seen by many of her underage fans is a stupid choice. Although the therapeutic impact of the work is undeniable, is it necessary for Cyrus to take such artistic therapy to the point of being a dangerous influence?


The Legal Status of a Criminal Confession in AA
AA encourages members to admit their wrongs, past and present. But are the rooms of recovery as sacred as a church's confessional booth?

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When Paul Cox joined AA he never drank again. 

But working the steps dredged up old memories and by the time he reached his fourth and fifth, the nightmares began. He was shocked at visions too heinous to consider. And he pushed them aside for a time, but the haunting dreams continued until, in a tearful confession, he spilled it all to his girlfriend, also in AA. What followed was a series of confessions, first to his AA sponsor who asked, according to court documents, “What’s the matter? How bad could it be, you didn’t murder anyone did you?” 

The thing is, Cox was pretty certain he had because his nightly apparitions revealed pieces of an alcohol-induced black-out from a much earlier time. As Cox shadowed his own deeds he became more certain, watching frequent re-runs of his crime: The brutal stabbing of a sleeping man and woman in his childhood home. 

So his sponsor sought the counsel of a more seasoned AA member, who also sought the counsel of yet another. And each time, they said, “Don’t drink, go to meetings and don’t tell anyone.” But the confessions continued until the circle grew to seven. It was his girlfriend who eventually outed him, tipping off the cops to what he had done. That led to the interrogation of the remaining confessors, and along with a matching fingerprint from the scene, they had enough to charge Cox with second degree murder. 

The legal battle that ensued shed new light on issues of anonymity and AA confessions. A ping pong between courts had lawyers bantering about such things as cleric-penitent privilege (confessions made in private to a member of the clergy) and how it did or did not apply to Alcoholics Anonymous. In the first trial, the jury was unable to reach a verdict, and a mistrial was declared. A second trial found Cox guilty of manslaughter. But on appeal, Federal Judge Charles Brieant overturned the conviction, and in an unprecedented ruling said that AA was a religious organization, and a confession made to a member could not be used as evidence. A third appeal overturned Judge Brieant’s decision and Cox was again convicted.

So what about all those budding AA neophytes diligently working the steps and preparing to admit to God, themselves and another human being the exact nature of their wrongs? How can they be pushed to confess and then convicted if the deeds are too heinous or in conflict with the confessor’s morals? Some say Step Five is the path to freedom, or is that freedom dependent on the exact nature of the wrongs? Perhaps the real issue is that anonymity is not sacred and a sponsor cannot absolve the penitent of their sins. “The problem with telling people in a meeting, you are subject to the values and mores of those in the group,” says H. Westley Clark, MD, SAMSHA’s director of the Center for Substance Abuse Treatment. “AA cannot pressure a confession and then assure anonymity exists, it is a mischaracterization to offer anonymity…anonymity is not inviolate.” 

Consider the fate of Jamie Kellam Letson who confessed that she killed her college friend with two bullets to the head 30 years earlier. Letson’s sponsor guided her to write a letter to her dead friend and then drove her to the cemetery to read it. That was before the sponsor turned her in and used the letter as evidence. Or Bob Ryder’s AA confession that he had a dead body in his basement that was starting to smell? His sponsor suggested pouring baking soda on the decomposing woman before turning him into authorities two weeks later.

And such confessions of guilt are not limited to the hallowed halls of AA. Back in 1998, more than 200 members of the online support group, Moderation Management, were witness to the online drunken confession of Larry Froisted who admitted to being “wickedly” drunk, purposely setting his house on fire and killing his five year-old daughter, Amanda. Of the 200, only three reported the confession to police. Froisted was later arrested and convicted of his crime.

Crimes committed while drinking and drugging are still crimes, not merely collateral damage from a substance abusing past. And that may be where the confusion lies for the newly sober. Many experts suggest caution and discretion before disclosing information in an AA meeting or to a sponsor.

“Theoretically, everything that is said in an AA meeting is supposed to be kept confidential by all the other attendees, so there would have to be a breach of the AA code if law enforcement is contacted to report a confession,” says Carole Lieberman, MD, Beverly Hills forensic psychiatrist. “Nonetheless, if an alcoholic patient of mine, who was attending AA meetings, asked if he should confess to a crime at an AA meeting, I would certainly counsel him against it.”

Additionally, Lieberman says she would explore with her patient why he wanted to do so. “Was he feeling guilty about his crime and trying to sabotage himself, so that someone would report it and he would be punished?” she says. “Obviously, this would be a self-destructive means of repenting or making amends. If he committed a serious crime, and wanted to turn himself in, then the best way to do so would be to contact law enforcement in the company of one's attorney.”

Especially in an era of social media and cell phones, caution is advised when discussing things with participants, according to SAMSHA’s Clark. “Sometimes someone can be almost tricked into disclosing and you don’t know the motives of your sponsor,” he says. “There is no ethical surveillance…you need to give pause before disclosing.”

The problem for the newly sober is poor cognitive discernment and according to Dix, NY LCSW Richard Buckman, who has been in recovery for many years, “What happens in early recovery is that you say things you shouldn’t say,” he says. “That’s why sponsorship is encouraged.”

According to Buckman, when someone confesses to a crime, members of the group could help them see how to do the right thing. “I know stories of people who have gotten sober and in an effort to live life fully, they turn themselves into authorities.”

So how do 12-step groups build trust under the shadow of possible arrest after a Step Five confession?

“A huge component is trust and feeling safe talking about what they have done,” says Faye S. Taxman, PhD, a university professor in the Criminology, Law and Society Department at George Mason University and director of the Center for Advancing Correctional Excellence at the Washington, DC university. “If it results in negative consequences, they will feel suspicious…If arrests become more prevalent it undermines communities for self-help.”

AA was founded on spiritual principles of anonymity and disclosure. Interestingly however, AA literature defines anonymity at the personal level: anonymity provides protection for all members from identification as alcoholics. The Understanding Anonymity pamphlet never mentions safety from disclosure of a crime. 

In Cox’s situation, his confessions were to appease his gnawing guilt and on appeal the court ruled that his discussions were not to seek spiritual guidance, many occurred outside AA and were therefore not protected. 

William Nottingham Beebe perhaps wishes he had stopped at Step Eight (make a list of those we have harmed). His Step Nine, a letter apologizing to the woman he raped at a UVA fraternity house more than 20 years earlier, led to his arrest in Las Vegas. Much like Cox, Beebe admits he had spoken over the years to his sponsor and other AA members about the incident and it appears he had no intention of serving time for his crime. The letter, to many, seemed merely a way to advance his recovery, appease guilt, and justify his actions as alcohol-related. The problem was, the letter re-opened wounds for Liz Seccuro, his victim, and she decided to press charges. 

In her victim statement Seccuro wrote: "I recognize he has 'turned his ship around,' but that does not mitigate the need for punishment. In his apology, he was grasping at moral absolution so he could move on with his life. He wanted a blank check, a clean slate."

And according to USA Today, Prosecutor Charles Worrell said that Beebe's “decision to apologize was selfish--a decision that traumatized Seccuro all over again. The genesis of AA and the use of step nine in this particular instance was a way for Mr. Beebe to deal with the demons he had within himself." 

Such confessions can reinjure victims and can cause problems for those hearing the confession. Sometimes it is too difficult for the individual to hear. Buckman explains that vicarious traumatization can occur. And what that means is that the person hearing it can be impacted emotionally.

He says the best thing for sponsors is to guide the newly sober into using caution before disclosing. “It is not in their best interest to confess to a crime in that setting,” he says. “It’s best to reserve that for someone with a great deal of experience or a clergy member…it’s best to have the guidance of a mentor with experience.”

There are many in AA who believe a healthy, solid recovery means making amends even if that means going to jail for past crimes. “Imagine a scenario where someone confesses and the community helps the person recognize his or her responsibility to do the right thing, like turning themselves in,” says Taxman. “The process of recovery is taking ownership of what was done. They need accountability. I think we as a society need these types of community-based groups to help us deal with our problems.”

Taxman continues. “Keeping the trust is extremely important. The arrests sends a poor message to the community and they become suspicious of baring their soul in a meeting. The most important part for self-help communities is to realize they have responsibility and sometimes it is legal.”

Neil Kaltenecker Campbell, the executive director of the Georgia Council on Substance Abuse and a Faces & Voices of Recovery board member, who is also in recovery, says an important question when considering such things, is what will keep someone sober? 

“You have to own up to your past and take responsibility for saying what you did in your addiction,” she says. “Recovery is about personal responsibility.”

Kathleen Phalen Tomaselli has written for the Washington Post, the LA Times, USA Today and American Medical News, among other publications. She last wrote about gambling in high placesand the state of addiction funding research.