Sunday, February 21, 2016
Saturday, February 20, 2016
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| "Adjustments keep me moving forward while affirmations assist in creating the pathway." |
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“The only limit to our realization of tomorrow will be our doubts of today.” -F.D. Roosevelt
“Only one thing registers on the subconscious mind: practice. What you practice is what you manifest.” -Grace Spear
“It’s the repetition of…affirmations that leads to belief. And once that belief becomes a deep conviction, things begin to happen.” -Claude M. Bristol
“Practice makes permanent.” -Bobby Robson
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Statement #12, “I am a competent woman and have much to give life.”
This is what I am and I shall know it always.
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+ Karen’s Perspective +
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Repetition. This word has made such a difference in my life. In the past, repeated drinking instilled a feeling of failure and inability. I was unable to comprehend this while under the influence and I clung to doubt and negativity. Over time, this became a deeply held conviction and I truly believed that I was incapable of doing anything. My identity spiraled downwards; the more I used alcohol, the less of me there was.
Sobriety and Statement #12 in action challenges and changes old belief systems and reinstates a sense of worth. It is in the continuing practice of the WFS Program that brings a sparkle to life. Insight, ability and connection unfold when affirming ones’ self.
Beginning with saying “I am a competent woman,” I challenged the old view that was developed when drinking. At first it felt awkward to say this out loud. I liked writing it down better, so I did both. I was slowly teaching myself about my own value. I was rewriting my life and, at the same time, rewiring my brain.
Instead of saying “I can’t,” I began to say, “I will try.” Soon I was able to understand that I wasn’t a failure or a mistake and instead know that I had the ability to try and try again. I would learn something with each attempt. Soon my affirmations took on a more definite route and I began to say to myself that “I am lovable” and/or “I am filled with courage.”
I simply adore those moments in our meetings, whether online or face to face, when we introduce ourselves and say, “I am a competent woman” (or capable, caring, compassionate). It is astonishing to watch a woman for the first time say this and see that excitement in her eyes; she lights up the entire room and there is a definite energy shift!
Statement #12 is intertwined within every aspect of my life today. It continues to assist me in believing in who I am and where I am going. Do I still doubt myself or my abilities? Of course. The difference is that I no longer barricade myself within a fortress of failure. Adjustments keep me moving forward, while affirmations assist in creating the pathway. Hugzzz, Karen
- Do you have any outdated belief systems that need to be addressed?
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Hi 4C Women, I found a cardboard box in my bedroom closet and in it was an envelope marked “very personal.” Since I moved here over 9 years ago, I was curious as to what was contained inside. Oh my, if only I had Statement #12 back in 1967! What I wrote brought tears to my eyes. My lack of self-worth was deeply saddening. I had been married less than a year and, until I read this letter to my ex again, I just didn’t remember how insecure, unworthy and unlovable I felt. Seeing it in writing after all these years, just helped me to understand how much I have overcome and that being able to say I love myself is quite remarkable considering most of my 27 year marriage was filled with these unlovable feelings.
Over the past few Mondays, we have been addressing the importance of self-worth, self-love and self-esteem. Since I have been sober for a long time, it seems these messages have re-introduced the woman I once was and I am so happy to have said goodbye to her. Joyful that sobriety and therapy gave me the ability to uncover and discover the 4C woman I am today.
I’ve been saying that nothing can take away all the hard work I have accomplished and reading that letter of almost 49 years ago reaffirmed it. There were many letters after that but what struck me is that I was married less than a year and 22 years old. It took a lot of courage to strike out on my own after 27 years of marriage; yet, I survived - the fear of being a bag lady with a shopping cart for storage did not materialize! I continued to learn, to become self-assured, decisive and strong enough to learn from my mistakes and there were plenty of them. I share this because I want each of you to have hope if you are willing to face your challenges, to let go of the fear of making a mistake and learn from each one, to know it is in your power to love yourself, to feel free, joyful and in charge of your life. There is no timetable on change. You can be 20 or 70. All that matters is the willingness and desire for it to happen. As Oprah says in her new commercial, “If not now, when?” –Dee
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Thank you, Karen and Dee, for your words of encouragement and inspiration to start off our week! ~Becky Fenner, WFS Director
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Friday, February 19, 2016
Thursday, February 18, 2016
Lawyer letter
Lawyer letter
The Unintended Client and Non-Engagement Letters
By Thomas P. Sukowicz
Every year malpractice claims are made against lawyers by individuals that the lawyers never considered to be their clients. This occurs because the existence or non-existence of an attorney-client relationship is not explicitly communicated by the lawyer.
Generally, courts will recognize an attorney-client relationship when the attorney's conduct would lead a reasonable person to believe that he was being represented by the attorney. Parker v. Carnahan, 772 S.W.2d 151 (Tex.App. 1989). The evidence focuses on the conduct and communications of the attorney and putative client.
Claims by persons considered by the lawyers to be non-clients usually arise in one of three ways. The first is when a lawyer declines to represent a person in a matter, and it is not clear to the prospective client that the lawyer is declining to represent him. This could happen with a new matter for a current client as well as for a prospective client.
For example, in Rice v. Forestier, 415 S.W.2d 711 (Tex.App. 1967), a lawyer had represented a husband and wife and their corporation in various matters when the wife delivered to the lawyer a citation to answer a suit for the collection of a debt. No answer was filed and a default judgment was entered. The attorney admitted that the wife left the citation in his office with his secretary. The court held that the attorney had a duty to inform the client that he was not going to file an answer or defend the case. Although the lawyer had the right to decline to represent client in this matter, he had an obligated to inform the client of this decision.
In Rice, the client just dropped off the citation without further communication with the lawyer, assuming the lawyer would handle the matter. The same result could occur if a lawyer agrees to review a matter for a prospective or existing client and accepts the client's papers for review. Unless the lawyer specifically informs the client that he is not accepting the case, the client may claim that he relied on the lawyer's silence to mean that the lawyer was taking the case.
A similar situation could occur in a transaction. A prospective or existing client might want a lawyer to review a residential real estate contract that is subject to review by the parties' attorneys within a certain number of days after acceptance. If the client delivers or faxes the contract to the lawyer without a clear understanding as to whether the lawyer is accepting the representation, the client may reasonably believe the lawyer is protecting his interests, and the lawyer may be liable for failing to do so.
A non-engagement letter under these circumstances would prevent any misunderstanding about the absence of an attorney-client relationship. It might include the following language:
We have received [your communication][the documents you delivered] regarding [subject matter]. While we appreciate the confidence you have expressed in our firm, for various reasons we are unable to represent you in this matter. We are returning under cover of this letter the materials you provided for our review.
When declining to accept a legal matter, lawyers should be careful in what they communicate to the client. Even if there is no question that the lawyer is not taking the case, the lawyer may still be liable to the prospective client for any legal advice or opinion rendered to the prospective client.
In one case, a woman consulted with a lawyer about possible medical malpractice claim arising out of injuries to her husband while in a hospital. The lawyer met with her for about 45 minutes, after which time he told her that the case was not worth pursuing and that his firm would not represent her. The woman left, and did not consult another attorney for a year because she believed that she did not have a case based on the lawyer's remark. The jury found that there was an attorney-client relationship between the couple and the lawyer because the wife went to the lawyer for legal advice and he gave her an opinion about the merits of the claim. It also found that there was medical malpractice and that the couple would have been successful in prosecuting that claim but for the attorney's advice. The jury awarded damages to the husband of $610,500, and to the wife of $39,000. Togstad v. Vesely, Otto, Miller & Keefe, 291 N.W.2d 686 (Minn. 1980).
In another case, Miller v. Metzinger, 154 Cal.Rptr. 22 (Cal.App. 1979), the plaintiff's wrongful death case was dismissed for having been filed after the statute of limitations had run. The plaintiff had consulted four law firms. The Metzinger firm was the third. Metzinger ultimately declined to take the case, but a fact issue as to whether he informed the prospective client of his declination and that the statute of limitations was about to expire caused the appellate court to reverse summary judgment in favor of the lawyer. The court stated that even if the lawyer had withdrawn a few days before the statute expired, it would be a breach of duty to fail to inform the client of the statute of limitations issue and of the need to protect the case by filing within the prescribed time.
Because courts have found a duty to inform the client of the requirement of filing within the statutory period, a non-engagement letter should address that issue, without necessarily giving an opinion about when the time within which to file will expire. The non-engagement letter should include language similar to the following:
Please note that the law limits the time within which individuals may file law suits. Allowing too much time to pass may forever bar you from asserting your claim. We are not providing our opinion as to the date by which you must file any law suit against [adverse party]. We encourage you, however, to immediately contact another attorney if you wish to pursue your claim.
The non-engagement letter should also include a disclaimer of any legal advice. For example, the letter might include:
In declining to take your case, we are not expressing an opinion about the merits of your position. We encourage you to consult with another attorney regarding your case if you so choose. Our decision not to accept this representation should not be interpreted as an adverse opinion about the merits of your case.
The second way in which these kinds of claims arise is when a lawyer is involved in a transaction involving multiple parties, some of whom are not represented by attorneys, and it is not clear to all involved which parties the lawyer does not represent.
In Kotzur v. Kelly, 791 S.W.2d 254 (Tex. App. 1990), the court found that an attorney for a seller of real estate may be liable to the buyers when the circumstances lead the buyers to believe that the attorney is representing them and the lawyer has not made it clear that he was not their attorney. In that case, the client was selling 225 acres of land to his two sons. The sons did not retain another attorney, but believed that their father's attorney also represented them. When they later learned of a lien on the property, they sued the lawyer for malpractice. The sons testified that they thought the lawyer also represented them. The attorney, apparently was unsure about whether he represented the sons, testified, "I didn't feel I was dealing with two different parties here" and admitted that he prepared the documents related to the transaction on a "family-type basis." The court reversed the summary judgment that had been entered in favor of the lawyer and remanded the case for trial.
When dealing with unrepresented parties, especially when they are related to the client or are partners of the client, it is crucial to have a writing that clarifies who the lawyer represents and who the lawyer does not represent. A letter to the unrepresented parties may contain language similar to the following:
I enjoyed [meeting you] [talking with you] yesterday regarding [legal matter]. As I mentioned, I am only representing [client] in this matter. I am not representing you and cannot advise you regarding your interests in this matter. You should consider consulting with a lawyer of your choice.
The third way in which claims by persons considered by the lawyers to be non-clients usually arise is when a lawyer terminates his representation, and it is not clear to the client that the lawyer's representation has ended. Generally, an attorney's liability for malpractice terminates when the relationship ends. In most cases, this occurs when the lawyer completes the client's objective. Maddox v. Burlingame, 205 Mich.App. 446 (1994). Sometimes, however, even though the lawyer considers the professional relationship to have ended, it is not clear to the client that the relationship is over.
In In re Smith, 91 B.R. 612 (Bkrtcy.M.D.Fla.,1988), a bankruptcy court considered the issue of whether a lawyer continued to represent a client in a matter involving the release of a guaranty of certain debts of the client. The lawyer claimed that, at the time of the transaction, he was no longer representing that client. The lawyer had represented the client for over a decade. The court held that, once an attorney-client relationship exists, the attorney has the affirmative duty to notify the client of the termination of the relationship. Because there was nothing in the record indicating that the lawyer ever notified the client that the attorney-client relationship had been terminated, and because the client testified that he considered the lawyer to be his attorney, the court concluded that the lawyer had a continuing duty to the client.
In terms of malpractice avoidance, a "disengagement" letter to the client not only will serve to document the discharge of the lawyer's duty in the event of a dispute, but it should also signal to the client, in concrete terms, that the attorney-client relationship has ended. Consider sending a disengagement letter at the conclusion of each matter you undertake for a client. The letter might include language similar to the following:
We are pleased to have represented you for the past [time period] in [legal matter]. This will confirm that our engagement to represent you in this matter has concluded. We will take no further action regarding this matter. We are returning to you under cover of this letter [documents] related to your case.
The absence of non-engagement and disengagement letters has contributed to the filing of legal malpractice claims by persons to whom lawyers believed they owed no duty. Sending such letters may prevent the initiation of malpractice claims or even defeat claims by such persons. The time it takes to write these letters may be the most important time you spend on the matter.
Wednesday, February 17, 2016
Both Republicans and Democrats Support Proposals Addressing Heroin Crisis - Partnership for Drug-Free Kids
Both Republicans and Democrats Support Proposals Addressing Heroin Crisis - Partnership for Drug-Free Kids: Both Republican and Democratic legislators are supporting proposals to address the heroin crisis, USA Today reports.
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