Saturday, June 27, 2015


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Too Smart for AA? Don't Overthink It - Make Changes and Have Faith in the Process

Too Smart for AA? Don't Overthink It - Make Changes and Have Faith in the Process
Early recovery is a difficult time. We must keep it simple and have an open mind, if we are to find our way to a better life.
Too smart for AA? Here's why it's important to have an open mind in early recovery. 
There is an expression in AA that we've never met anyone too dumb to get this program but we have met people too smart to get it.
In his book, The Thinking Person's Guide to Sobriety, Bert Pluymen shares the pitfalls of being a very smart alcoholic seeking recovery. As is most often the case with addiction, the truth is counterintuitive:
Being highly intelligent and possessing keen critical thinking skills were a hindrance when it came to getting sober, staying sober, and changing his life.
Despite being a celebrated attorney, the best asset in Pluymen’s early recovery was his sponsor – a janitor with a 4th grade education.
This is one of the most amazing things about AA – it brings together people from every walk of life. 
AA creates a space where we find mentors, supports and friends. Often in the seemingly most unlikely pairings and groupings, folks find their way to a better life.
All it takes to be a member of AA is an earnest desire to stop drinking. All it takes to start making progress is an open mind and willingness to change.

Honesty & Simplicity

If we’re completely honest with ourselves, we find tons of motivation to be open to new ideas. It’s as simple as this: 
My way doesn’t work. My thinking brought me to where I am today. My best ideas didn’t help me avoid the destruction of addiction. My lifestyle, my friends, my family, my choices were not enough to keep me from losing control.
I want my life back. I want to feel like I’m in control. For a long time I tried to get back to where I was before I lost it. Now I see that going back isn’t an option. I get the same result every time. I have to change. I’ve been resistant to change because it scares me.
Woody Allen said, “eighty percent of success is showing up.” If we’re willing to take up a seat and listen, we will hear from people like us who had problems like ours and found solutions. We’ll meet folks who are willing to encourage and support us in one of the hardest things a human being can do – recover from addiction.

Get Your Mind Blown

Hearing what people have to say in a meeting may well leave you skeptical at first, so use the buffet approach – take what you like and leave the rest. You’ll hear some things that are hard to believe. Folks may speak of “having a life second to none.” Or they’ll say, “I wouldn’t trade my worst day sober for my best day drinking.” You’ll wonder how anyone could claim such things, but they’re true.
The most incredible of all is to hear someone describe themselves as a “grateful alcoholic.” You’ll wonder why anyone could possibly be happy about being an alcoholic? The simple truth is that if not for the need for recovery from addiction, our lives would not have changed all that much. Most people do not make huge positive changes in how they live their lives. People in recovery do.

Cunning, Baffling, and Powerful

You will hear people conceptualize their addiction as a part of themselves that is trying to kill them. They will personify it and describe what it tells them. On the surface this may look like a cop-out. It’s not. 
To personify it is to begin creating distance between something that is a part of us and our true selves. This is a big part of how we become free.

Slow Down

You will likely find it discouraging to hear people share how long it took them to get sober, change their lives, and develop the habits and routines that sustain them. Keep in mind that the only finish-line is death. Recovery is not about getting all better. It’s about getting better, twenty four hours at a time.
Everything is a process and it may seem mystifying to hear people talk more about how their Higher Power directed them than what the actual steps were. The good news is that people working on their recovery love to share what they’ve learned and will gladly teach you. All you have to do is muster the courage to ask.

The Promises

One of the most beautiful pieces in all of AA’s literature are the promises of recovery from alcoholism. They may indeed sound extravagant and yet they are attainable to all of us, no matter how far down our disease has taken us. If we are cynical or jaded we will find it difficult to have hope for such things. Yet without hope we are adrift.
It’s normal to doubt. All of us did and many of us still do. Having an open mind means being receptive to learning, growing, and healing. It creates opportunities. If we’rerigorously honest with ourselves we find that we had little or nothing to lose and everything to gain.
You can have what we have and if you’d like to help us, let us help you. The only way we can keep it is to give it away.

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How to deal with non-supportive family and Addiction - Experts Discuss

Friday, June 26, 2015

Many Primary Care Doctors Lack Understanding of Opioid Abuse: Survey - Partnership for Drug-Free Kids

Many Primary Care Doctors Lack Understanding of Opioid Abuse: Survey - Partnership for Drug-Free Kids

Substance Abuse Treatment Counselors Say Workplace Violence is Common - Partnership for Drug-Free Kids

Substance Abuse Treatment Counselors Say Workplace Violence is Common - Partnership for Drug-Free Kids

Form of Virtual Reality May be Useful in Treating Alcohol Dependence - Partnership for Drug-Free Kids

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Greetings,

Please see the attached ProAct Philadelphia Recovery Community Center (PRCC) Calendar of Events for July. Please do not hesitate to call us if you have any questions or concerns.

Thank you,

Sean E. Brinda, MSW, CCDP Diplomate
Senior Peer Services Coordinator
PRO-ACT/Philadelphia Recovery Community Center
1701 W. Lehigh Avenue
Philadelphia, PA 19132

Register for Recovery Walks! 2014 at www.recoverywalks.org

1 (800) 221-6333 Twenty-four Hour Information Line

PRO-ACT… Ambassadors for Recovery!

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THE HEAT IS ON - GET INVOLVED:

VOLLYBALL JULY 18TH FROM 6-9PM.
YOGA ON WEDNESDAYS @ 7PM.
PLANNING TO SUSTAIN RECOVERY TUESDAYS @ 7PM AND THURSDAYS @ 10AM.
SMART RECOVERY THURSDAYS @ 6PM.

We are in need your help moving forward. So please get involved.

WALK WITH US in the FALL - September 19th @ Penn’s Landing

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Recovery Walk Meeting July 14th 6pm Combined with our Volunteer Monthly Meeting!

Contact Rick for Details on the walk.

Mentoring Matters - see the flyer attached. Mentoring training on the 29th & 30th of June is a great way to start with helping others in Recovery. Working one on one with others. As a mentor here at the council. A mentor for those who have moved forward thru the Family Program. As a Mentor to someone going thru a Medically Assisted Program. As a Mentor helping those in the jail system with the Mentor+ Program. Helping those in need individuals or family members.

Maybe you would like to attend or you know someone who would like to attend. Please come one and all to one of our fun and exciting groups or activities! Hope to see you there!!
Each and every one of us needs to help support our volunteers with attendance at groups and activities. It is with your help spreading the word out in the community these free groups can continue to grow!!
Rick
Rick Petrolawicz, CRS
Volunteer Coordinator
The Council of Southeast Pennsylvania, Inc.
252 West Swamp Road, Unit 12
Doylestown, Pennsylvania 18901
(800) 221-6333 – Drug and Alcohol Information Line 9am-5pm


Prevention, Intervention & Addiction Recovery Solutions

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Wednesday, June 24, 2015

JUNE 24 CHP 55 v 21 TWELVE STEPPING WITH STRENGTH FROM THE PSALMS


His words are as smooth as butter,
but in his heart is war.
His words are as soothing as lotion,
but underneath are daggers!


Step 5: Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.

Before we get to step six truly recognizing our true selves and admitting , I think one way but act another is as defective as you can get when it comes to personality. Lets break it down and make it simple. TAKE OFF THE MASK ! One Hundred Percent of the people in your life who matter already know the true you so you are not fooling anyone but yourself.Plus life can be twice as hard when your Dr. Jeckell and Mr. Hide ! I know I spelled Hide wrong too make a point and that is your actions will reveal the real you so take off the masks ,pretend time is over admit your mistakes forgive yourself and show the world the true you that's hiding somewhere deep in that Giant heart of yours. 

James 1 v 23 v 24
For if anyone is a hearer of the word and not a doer, he is like a man who looks at his natural face in a mirror; for once he has looked at himself and gone away, he has immediately forgotten what kind of person he was (GODS BIG BOOK)
By Joseph Dickerson 
Greetings,
Attached you will find the July Calendar for Southern Bucks Recovery Community Center. For those of you who do not know me, I am Karen’s Supervisor, filling in while she is a bit under the weather.  We hope to see some of you this Summer

Thanks

Steve Calderbank
Recovery Centers Coordinatror
The Council of Southeast Pennsylvania, Inc.
252 West Swamp Road, Unit 12
Doylestown, Pennsylvania 18901

Bristol, Pennsylvania 19007
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Prevention, Intervention & Addiction Recovery Solutions

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Tuesday, June 23, 2015

U.S. Government Awards University of Mississippi $69 Million to Grow Marijuana - Partnership for Drug-Free Kids

U.S. Government Awards University of Mississippi $69 Million to Grow Marijuana - Partnership for Drug-Free Kids

Some Experts Say Naloxone Alone Isn’t Enough to Address Opioid Addiction Crisis - Partnership for Drug-Free Kids

Some Experts Say Naloxone Alone Isn’t Enough to Address Opioid Addiction Crisis - Partnership for Drug-Free Kids

60 Percent of Adults Favor Total Ban on Powdered Alcohol in Their State: Poll - Partnership for Drug-Free Kids

60 Percent of Adults Favor Total Ban on Powdered Alcohol in Their State: Poll - Partnership for Drug-Free Kids

Calls to Poison Centers for Synthetic Marijuana on the Rise - Partnership for Drug-Free Kids

Calls to Poison Centers for Synthetic Marijuana on the Rise - Partnership for Drug-Free Kids
 Women for Sobriety, Inc.
"Daily, I am a new woman!"

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“The more you know yourself, the more patience you have for what you see in others.”
–Erik Erikson

“The one self-knowledge worth having is to know one’s own mind.” –F. H. Bradley

“Who looks outside, dreams.  Who looks inside, awakes.” –Carl Jung

“Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom. -Aristotle

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Statement #5, “I am what I think.”
I am a capable, competent, caring, compassionate woman.
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Karen’s Perspective +
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     Do I know myself?  I can honestly say that I know myself better today than ever before.  I accredit this directly to sobriety and our WFS Program.
     Before my New Life, healthy thinking and self-awareness was almost non-existent.  I bounced off of one experience to another without ever considering how I got there or at my involvement. My thoughts and behavior were also quite critical.  I blasted others and, then, in turn blasted myself.  Blame was a regular part of my life; but, I was unable to recognize this fact.
     Statement #5 in action, and the center of the WFS “New Life” Program, continues to enlighten my mind and my life.  I am continually learning about myself and identifying and connecting to my inner thoughts.  With this growing ability, I am able to direct my life in healthy and empowering ways.  Daily I am a new woman!
     It was not an easy task to begin to understand and embrace my thoughts.  Early in my sobriety, my mind felt flooded with incessant talking and non-stop judgments.  Often I surprised myself with deep criticisms and negativity; however, I also found a loving, supportive side which I continue to encourage and grow with.
     Every day I am a new woman and learn to know myself a little bit more.  I am utilizing life-changing tools and developing in self-awareness as I continue on this journey of discovery.  Life is incredible, giving and filled with beauty and love!
     Through self-awareness and mind development, I embrace my beautiful New Life!Hugzzz, Karen

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+  Dee’s Insights  +
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     Hi 4C Women, For those who have known me over the years, you know that I was into the “Blame” game for a very long time.  It was this blame game that got me into therapy.  If I could just understand why other people made my life so miserable, I could explain it more clearly to them; they would see the error of their ways and change to make me feel better and, of course, release me of any responsibility for my life.  Thank goodness my therapist and the WFS Program guided me in the right direction.
     Learning to take responsibility for my actions and finally learning to love myself was a gigantic step for me.  I realized that my hatred of myself was at the root of my unhappiness.  Not to say that the treatment from others didn’t have an impact; however, it was my choice to stay or leave those relationships.  I didn’t love myself enough to realize I had the choice and the right to be treated as I deserved and to set boundaries.
     It is a work in progress as I continue to work on setting or re-setting boundaries.  As people in my life change, so do the boundaries.  Becoming a 4C woman turned my life around.  I learned why I accepted certain behaviors from others and that was a tremendous insight into so many aspects of my thinking and own behavior.  I finally got it that I could change only myself, no one else and that no matter how much others loved me, if I didn’t love myself, I would always be drawn back into the blame game and stuck in my negative world.
     I am what I think truly changed the course of my world.  No longer did I look in the mirror and say, “You’re stupid, fat and ugly, I hate you!”  The first time I said, “I love you” at my reflection, I looked over my shoulder because I didn’t think those words were coming from me.  I still remember that moment.
  • What do you say to yourself?
  • How do you see yourself when no one else is around?
     Practice positive self-talk - it works!  Most of all, learn to love yourself for this is the core of so many more positive moments and direction in your life.  I know, I lived it and am grateful every day for Statement #5.  –Dee
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Thank you, Karen and Dee, for your words of encouragement and inspiration to start off our week! ~Becky Fenner, WFS Director
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