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Saturday, July 7, 2012
Sober Bikers United, Inc.
Sober Bikers United, Inc.
Welcome to Sober Bikers United, Inc. (SBU)
Sober Bikers United, Inc. is a family oriented group of clean and sober bikers whose primary goal is to have fun and share the clean and sober biker lifestyle. You don't have to be a biker to be a member. You don't have to own a bike. You don't have to be in recovery. The only requirement for membership is that you live and/or support a clean and sober biker lifestyle and like motorcycles. There are no gender, race, or recovery program requirements for membership.
Purpose : Sober Bikers United Inc. is a social association. The membership body offersfellowship to motorcyclists in recovery from drug and or alcohol abuse. Sober Bikers United Inc. is not a recovery program or a religion in itself. Sober Bikers United Inc. does not endorse one recovery program, religion or religious denomination as superior to another. However, the influence of Alcoholics Anonymous, Narcotics Anonymous and a Higher Power is strong within Sober Bikers United Inc. Members are encouraged to take whatever steps necessary for them to live a clean, sober and legal lifestyle. Sober Bikers United Inc. is to be self supporting via events hosted, dues paid and sales of Sober Bikers United Inc. merchandise to its membership. We may accept unsolicited contributions as long as there are no requirements or conditions imposed upon Sober Bikers United Inc.
IT IS ESSENTIAL FOR THE WELL BEING OF SOBER BIKERS UNITED THAT WE ARE NEUTRAL TOWARD ALL MOTORCYCLE CLUBS.
Membership :Sober Bikers United, Inc. is open to anyone, both those in recovery and those who support those in recovery regardless of race or gender. The only true requirement is a desire to live and/or support a clean and sober lifestyle. If a Supporter, this includes not drinking or using in the presence of the general membership or while wearing the SBU patch. "Members" are people in recovery or those who chose to practice total abstinence, "Supporters" are all others. The Representative for your State will be notified about you. If members/supporters are near by, you are encouraged to go meet them. It is the hope of Sober Bikers United, Inc. that friendships will form and support will begin. That is what our chapters are built on. You are free to join a chapter or remain independent. No particular brand of motorcycle is required. Paid members/supporters will have access to the web sites members/supporters area. Children under the age of 18 are considered part of their parent's membership. SBU reserves the right to refuse membership to anyone for any reason other than age, race, gender, sexual orientation or religion.
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Dues : Annual dues of $30 are paid to the International office. Your dues will maintain your place on the International roster and help to defray operating costs of SBU. Paid members/supporters will have access to the web site's members/supporters area. There are no dues on the chapter level. Dues are non-refundable.
Affiliations, Coalitions, Federations etc : Sober Bikers United, Inc. is an association, not a motorcycle club. Therefore, as an association Sober Bikers United, Inc. cannot enter into affiliations, coalitions, federations etc, as a motorcycle club would. However, Sober Bikers United, Inc. accepts its responsibility to help support bikers rights organizations as best it can on the National level. State level SBU chapters have no authority to use the Sober Bikers United, Inc. name to join any groups of any kind without permission from the National office. Sober Bikers United, Inc. respects all traditional motorcycle clubs and in no way means any disrespect to any of them. The Sober Bikers United, Inc. membership is urged to use judgment with regard to wearing any support items. Misunderstanding can easily happen as we travel across the country and from event to event.
SOBER BIKERS RESPECTS ALL MOTORCYCLE CLUBS AND IS NEUTRAL WITH NO DESIRE TO CLAIM TERRITORY.
Territories and Boundaries : Sober Bikers United, Inc. has no boundaries and claims no territories. SBU uses established geographical boundaries and State lines purely as an organizational tool to help us better keep track of SBU members/supporters. SBU chapters have names that tend to reflect recovery or inspire, they are also numbered to help keep track of them. They have no meaning in regards to claiming any territories or establishing boundaries.
Runs, Events & Meetings :There are no mandatory runs, events or chapter meetings in Sober Bikers United, Inc.. We are indeed a social association and highly encourage our members to get together for such events. Directors try to coordinate one or more events per year; however, no event or run will be mandatory. Chapters are encouraged to plan fun get togethers and rides to various events as often as they want but should never pressure members/supporters to attend. We are about social fun not mandatory attendance.
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Friday, July 6, 2012
Inside Scientology's Rehab Racket
By Mark Ebner andWalter Armstrong THE FIX
Narconon promises desperate addicts that they can sweat out their demons (and gobs of green ooze) by spending hours in sweltering saunas. But is it a real rehab? Or a front trying to lure vulnerable converts to a declining cult?
Yet according to the organization's many critics, including friends and family of dead, damaged, or disappeared Narconon clients, the chain of rehabs is little more than a front group for the Church of Scientology. They allege that unsuspecting clients pay as much as $30,000 for “treatment” consisting of a bizarre detox process that poses serious health hazards, followed by indoctrination in Scientology masked as drug rehabilitation. By preying on people who are desperate and vulnerable—and prime candidates for conversion—Narconon serves as one of the church’s main sources of revenue and recruitment. As the Scientology brand turns increasingly toxic—in a recent New Yorker, Lawrence Wright reported that the F.B.I. is investigating its leadership for allegedly violating human trafficking laws—the church’s survival depends more than ever on Narconon’s hold on the addiction and recovery market. (Efforts by The Fix to contact a Narconon spokesperson for comment by phone and email were not successful.)By Mark Ebner andWalter Armstrong
L. Ron Hubbard, the prolific science fiction author and founder of the Church of Scientology, may have been judged “a mental case” (according to the F.B.I.) and “a pathological liar” (according to a Los Angeles Supreme Court judge), but to tens of thousands of his eager followers worldwide, the man discovered an approach to recovery that outclasses everything on offer from mainstream addiction science. Narconon is the spawn of Hubbard’s pseudos-cientific notions, a detox-and-rehab enterprise that has, over more than four decades, grown into a multimillion-dollar empire that currently comprises an estimated several dozen clinics encircling the globe. Its claims of unrivaled success rates with its “100 percent natural,” “drug free” approach have kept it profitable and respectable, even as the church’s reputation has tanked. Celebrity endorsements—from the likes of "former graduate" Kirstie Alley—and a savvyinternet marketing campaign haven't hurt.
L. Ron Hubbard was a strange candidate to emerge as the self-proclaimed scientific leader of one of the world’s largest anti-addiction enterprises. His fondness for illicit substances was well known. Yet aside from his own ingestion of a wide variety of illegal drugs including mescaline, barbiturates, and coke—described in letters written by Hubbard and his son—the exact nature of Hubbard’s “research” into addiction remains obscure. Hubbard claimed to have discovered in 1977 that the residue of L.S.D. and other “toxic” substances lingers in the body’s tissues for months and even years after use; like tiny ticking time bombs, these remnants can explode at any moment, triggering a dangerous craving or disorienting flashback that, in turn, can lead to more drug use.
The Narconon (not to be confused with Narcotics Anonymous, or N.A.) pamphlet “Ten Things Your Friends May Not Know About Drugs” offers a basic account of the science fiction master’s theories of drug addiction. “Most drugs or their by-products get stored in fat within the body and can stay there for years,” it reads. “Even occasional use has long-term effects. This is a problem because later, when the person is working or exercising or has stress, the fat burns up and a tiny amount of the drug seeps back into the blood. This triggers cravings so the person may still want drugs even years after he stopped taking them.”
To detoxify from alcohol and drugs, Hubbard recommended in his “Purification Rundown” that ailing addicts spend four or five hours a day in 150-degree saunas, while ingesting megadoses of vitamins. This sweat-out-the-bad, drink-in-the-good regimen had originally been invented by Hubbard as the first stage in the process of conversion to Scientology and becoming “clear”—free of the negativity of “engrams,” or previous incarnations. The ensuing rehabilitation course consists mainly of “training routines,” or “T.R.s"—a deep dive into Old Father Hubbard’s theory and practice of “communication,” which is a disguised version of Scientology 101.
“By the end of the sauna, you feel like a fresh, newborn baby,” testifies Marc Murphy, the brooding young British singer-songwriter who delivers a testimonial in a promotional video on the official Narconon website, narconon.org. Murphy insists that Narconon’s drug-free approach enabled him to kick a 12-year heroin addiction, compounded by a methadone and Valium habit that he acquired during dozens of previous detox attempts. “It was the easiest withdrawal that I’ve ever done,” the “student” says about his stint at a Narconon rehab outside London. “It saved my life.”
But lives have also been lost. Since Narconon's inception some 40 years ago, dozens of criminal and civil cases have been filed against its rehabs by former patients who claim to have been injured or abused, and by the relatives of people who have allegedly died as a result of bizarre and dangerous practices. “When I was at Narconon, people were taken away in ambulances and had to spend days in the hospital,” said David Love, a client at Narconon Trois-Rivieres—near Montreal—from December 2008 to May 2009, who was interviewed exclusively by The Fix. “People have died in the Quebec facility. The vitamin and sauna treatments are horrible. Patients regularly vomited and had diarrhea. Addicts with substance abuse problems have liver problems and high enzyme counts—they should in no way be taking massive amounts of vitamins like Niacin.”
Like many Narconon graduates, Love, 57, made an effortless transition from client to employee under the influence of his rehab's Scientology-based teachings. During the six months he worked at the clinic, he witnessed at least two hospitalizations: “One client had severe stomach pains and they sent him to his room to spend the whole day moaning and in pain, until he was finally taken to the hospital.” The other patient was a diabetic whose insulin was taken away when he entered the clinic, in keeping with its “drug free” philosophy. “The guy [went into insulin shock] and had to be rushed to the hospital. He was in a coma. They basically had to save his life,” said Love.
Narconon promises desperate addicts that they can sweat out their demons (and gobs of green ooze) by spending hours in sweltering saunas. But is it a real rehab? Or a front trying to lure vulnerable converts to a declining cult?
Yet according to the organization's many critics, including friends and family of dead, damaged, or disappeared Narconon clients, the chain of rehabs is little more than a front group for the Church of Scientology. They allege that unsuspecting clients pay as much as $30,000 for “treatment” consisting of a bizarre detox process that poses serious health hazards, followed by indoctrination in Scientology masked as drug rehabilitation. By preying on people who are desperate and vulnerable—and prime candidates for conversion—Narconon serves as one of the church’s main sources of revenue and recruitment. As the Scientology brand turns increasingly toxic—in a recent New Yorker, Lawrence Wright reported that the F.B.I. is investigating its leadership for allegedly violating human trafficking laws—the church’s survival depends more than ever on Narconon’s hold on the addiction and recovery market. (Efforts by The Fix to contact a Narconon spokesperson for comment by phone and email were not successful.)By Mark Ebner andWalter Armstrong
L. Ron Hubbard, the prolific science fiction author and founder of the Church of Scientology, may have been judged “a mental case” (according to the F.B.I.) and “a pathological liar” (according to a Los Angeles Supreme Court judge), but to tens of thousands of his eager followers worldwide, the man discovered an approach to recovery that outclasses everything on offer from mainstream addiction science. Narconon is the spawn of Hubbard’s pseudos-cientific notions, a detox-and-rehab enterprise that has, over more than four decades, grown into a multimillion-dollar empire that currently comprises an estimated several dozen clinics encircling the globe. Its claims of unrivaled success rates with its “100 percent natural,” “drug free” approach have kept it profitable and respectable, even as the church’s reputation has tanked. Celebrity endorsements—from the likes of "former graduate" Kirstie Alley—and a savvyinternet marketing campaign haven't hurt.
L. Ron Hubbard was a strange candidate to emerge as the self-proclaimed scientific leader of one of the world’s largest anti-addiction enterprises. His fondness for illicit substances was well known. Yet aside from his own ingestion of a wide variety of illegal drugs including mescaline, barbiturates, and coke—described in letters written by Hubbard and his son—the exact nature of Hubbard’s “research” into addiction remains obscure. Hubbard claimed to have discovered in 1977 that the residue of L.S.D. and other “toxic” substances lingers in the body’s tissues for months and even years after use; like tiny ticking time bombs, these remnants can explode at any moment, triggering a dangerous craving or disorienting flashback that, in turn, can lead to more drug use.
The Narconon (not to be confused with Narcotics Anonymous, or N.A.) pamphlet “Ten Things Your Friends May Not Know About Drugs” offers a basic account of the science fiction master’s theories of drug addiction. “Most drugs or their by-products get stored in fat within the body and can stay there for years,” it reads. “Even occasional use has long-term effects. This is a problem because later, when the person is working or exercising or has stress, the fat burns up and a tiny amount of the drug seeps back into the blood. This triggers cravings so the person may still want drugs even years after he stopped taking them.”
To detoxify from alcohol and drugs, Hubbard recommended in his “Purification Rundown” that ailing addicts spend four or five hours a day in 150-degree saunas, while ingesting megadoses of vitamins. This sweat-out-the-bad, drink-in-the-good regimen had originally been invented by Hubbard as the first stage in the process of conversion to Scientology and becoming “clear”—free of the negativity of “engrams,” or previous incarnations. The ensuing rehabilitation course consists mainly of “training routines,” or “T.R.s"—a deep dive into Old Father Hubbard’s theory and practice of “communication,” which is a disguised version of Scientology 101.
“By the end of the sauna, you feel like a fresh, newborn baby,” testifies Marc Murphy, the brooding young British singer-songwriter who delivers a testimonial in a promotional video on the official Narconon website, narconon.org. Murphy insists that Narconon’s drug-free approach enabled him to kick a 12-year heroin addiction, compounded by a methadone and Valium habit that he acquired during dozens of previous detox attempts. “It was the easiest withdrawal that I’ve ever done,” the “student” says about his stint at a Narconon rehab outside London. “It saved my life.”
But lives have also been lost. Since Narconon's inception some 40 years ago, dozens of criminal and civil cases have been filed against its rehabs by former patients who claim to have been injured or abused, and by the relatives of people who have allegedly died as a result of bizarre and dangerous practices. “When I was at Narconon, people were taken away in ambulances and had to spend days in the hospital,” said David Love, a client at Narconon Trois-Rivieres—near Montreal—from December 2008 to May 2009, who was interviewed exclusively by The Fix. “People have died in the Quebec facility. The vitamin and sauna treatments are horrible. Patients regularly vomited and had diarrhea. Addicts with substance abuse problems have liver problems and high enzyme counts—they should in no way be taking massive amounts of vitamins like Niacin.”
Like many Narconon graduates, Love, 57, made an effortless transition from client to employee under the influence of his rehab's Scientology-based teachings. During the six months he worked at the clinic, he witnessed at least two hospitalizations: “One client had severe stomach pains and they sent him to his room to spend the whole day moaning and in pain, until he was finally taken to the hospital.” The other patient was a diabetic whose insulin was taken away when he entered the clinic, in keeping with its “drug free” philosophy. “The guy [went into insulin shock] and had to be rushed to the hospital. He was in a coma. They basically had to save his life,” said Love.
WESTERN PA. HELP FOR PREGNANT WOMEN!
Alcohol and Drug Abuse Services, Inc.
Welcome to the the Alcohol and Drug Abuse Services, Inc. (ADAS) website. Our goal is to provide informative articles, links, and other resources relevant to substance abuse. Suggestions are welcome and may be submitted to:director@adasonline.org
ADAS is the Single County Authority (SCA) for Cameron, Elk and McKean counties. Pregnant women receive preferential services and are a priority population for treatment. There are no treatment service limitations for pregnant women.
ADAS welcomes new Prevention Supervisor
Jennifer Young of Saint Marys joined the agency June 25th as the Prevention Supervisor for ADAS, Inc. Jennifer is a 2010 graduate of Clarion University of PA, where she earned a B.S. in Rehabilitative Sciences. Prior to coming to ADAS, Jenn had worked as a Drug and Alcohol Counselor for Abraxas I in Marienville.
As Prevention Supervisor, Jennifer will oversee the provision of Drug and Alcohol Prevention and Intervention services in Cameron, Elk, McKean and (contracted) Potter counties. ADAS maintains Prevention staff in the Port Allegany, St. Marys, Bradford and Coudersport office locations and provides a wide variety of prevention and intervention programming, including:
- Student Assistance Program consultation
- Evidence/Research Based Alcohol, Tobacco and Other Drug prevention programs in local schools
- Preparing for Drug Free Years (PDFY)
- Prevention/Education group facilitators at the elementary and secondary levels
- The Incredible Years Program
- Community based programs for youth, women, and businesses.
- First time offenders programs
- Red Ribbon and holiday drunk and drugged driving prevention campaigns
- Healthy Kids Program
- Youthful Offenders Program
Jennifer will be working out of the St. Marys office and can be reached at 814-781-1700 or youngj@adasonline.org
Wednesday, July 4, 2012
PAINKILLERS FOR KIDS
OxyContin maker wants FDA backing to label addictive drug for 6-year-olds
By Karen Keller Monday, July 2, 2012
OxyContin is not currently labeled for use for children, but some doctors prescribe it to them anyway.
The maker of OxyContin is seeking Food and Drug Administration approval to label the controversial painkiller for use by children as young as 6 in a move that could serve to extend the company’s expiring patent on the lucrative drug, The Daily has learned.
Purdue Pharma has paid dozens of clinical sites around the country to document what happens when OxyContin, an addictive pharmaceutical widely abused by recreational users, is given to children.
The company says that its motivation is to help doctors who currently prescribe the drug off-label to children, a common practice in the treatment of pediatric conditions that involve moderate or severe pain.
But three physicians working with Purdue on the trials said the Stamford, Conn.-based company appears to be doing the research to get a six-month extension on their patent for the original formulation of OxyContin, which expires next year.
“They are doing (the pediatric trial) for patent exclusivity, there’s no doubt about it in my mind — not out of largesse,” said Dr. Elliot Krane, director of pain management at Lucile Packard Children’s Hospital at Stanford University in Palo Alto, Calif. “That’s important for their bottom line.”
The family-owned pharmaceutical company earned an estimated $2.8 billion in revenue last year from sales of the powerful opioid, part of the same drug family as morphine and heroin. Purdue is fiercely guarding its exclusivity in the market through ongoing legal battles, and now, it appears, through a pediatric trial that could stave off competitors for another six months.
The Purdue trial involves 154 children ages 6 to 16 and is slated for completion in August of next year, according to a filing submitted to the FDA. The document says that the study is currently recruiting participants.
Many of the nation’s top pediatric pain experts say Purdue’s children’s trial is, all in all, a good thing. But critics, citing Purdue’s history of criminal marketing practices, worry that use of the drug by children could expand and lead to greater addiction and abuse woes.
“There’s good medical evidence that suggests a brain that’s not fully mature is at greater risk at developing the disease of addiction,” said Andrew Kolodny, president of Physicians for Responsible Opioid Prescribing and the head of psychiatry at Maimonides Medical Center in New York City. The pediatric community underestimates those risks, he said, because they have given too much credence to drugmakers, who have systematically downplayed the dangers.
“Much of that misinformation (came from a) campaign funded by Purdue.”
In a landmark case for the pharmaceutical industry, Purdue in 2007 admitted in court that it misled doctors and the public about OxyContin’s risk of addiction. The company and three top company executives, each charged with a felony, paid $635 million in fines.
Purdue confirmed it is seeking permission to label the drug for pediatric use and pointed to a need to better understand how opioids affect children.
“We feel it is beneficial for clinicians who are treating pediatric patients with chronic, moderate-to-severe pain to have access to this information in scientific publications and in the product’s label, whether the results are positive or negative, so they can make better decisions about the care of their patients,” company spokesman James Heins wrote in an e-mail to The Daily.
Last year, 0.3 percent of OxyContin prescriptions were written for patients 19 and under, according to Purdue.
Numerous pediatric pain experts consulted by The Daily supported the company’s rationale, saying the trial will yield valuable data about a drug that children are already being prescribed.
“It’s clear in children certain drugs are definitely metabolized differently,” said Dr. Jeffrey Galinkin, a member of the American Academy of Pediatrics’ committee on drugs and research director of anesthesiology at Children’s Hospital of Colorado.
Purdue’s pediatric trial will help clarify how best to use the drug, he said. “It’s information we really do need to have.”
Purdue spokesman Heins told The Daily that the company does not plan to seek the right to market OxyContin to pediatricians — a separate category of FDA approval above and beyond labeling permission that would likely bring additional scrutiny of the company’s motives. A federal green light to market OxyContin for use in children, some worry, could lead to a higher rate of prescribing the drugs for kids and an army of Purdue sales representatives pressuring doctors to prescribe the drug more.
Krane, the physician involved with the study, doubted the company’s disavowal of any desire to market the drug to pediatricians.
“That’s probably disingenuous,” he said. “I believe (an FDA approval for marketing to pediatricians) is where they’re going.”
The question of patent rights looms equally large over the pediatric drug trial.
Purdue has been aggressively seeking to protect its original patent for OxyContin, which is scheduled to expire next year. The company has filed a raft of lawsuits against generic drug makers and is trying to get the FDA to ban generics of the original, easy-to-abuse formulation outright. Purdue released a new tamper-proof version of the drug in 2010 and that patent expires in 2025.
But the clinical trial for children offers another way to extend the life of the original patent.
In recent years the FDA has been encouraging pharmaceutical makers to test drugs for pediatric use and offering six-month patent extensions as a reward. Historically testing drugs for use in children is not something the pharmaceutical industry does, because the pediatric market is much smaller than the adult market.
As a consequence, pediatricians and family doctors simply use adult drugs on kids, making educated guesses about dosage amounts and side effects, several pediatricians said. Today more than 60 percent of drugs prescribed for children are not FDA-approved for pediatric use.
But in the case of Oxycontin, Kolodny and others worry that children are especially vulnerable to addiction. He also points to a 2005 study from the University of Michigan finding that children who are prescribed opioids are more likely to abuse painkillers in later life.
Teen abuse of OxyContin has already taken an epic toll on communities across the country.
“We’ve had 10 people die since May. Constant funerals lately,” said Joanne Peterson, founder of Learn to Cope, a Massachusetts-based group that helps parents of pill-addicted youth. All of the young people died from heroin overdoses, but their addiction started with OxyContin, she said. They moved to heroin because it provides a similar high but is cheaper. “I’m not going to ever trust anybody who mismarketed that drug on purpose.”
OxyContin's track record for abuse so far is stark. Last year painkillers - mainly oxycodone (OxyContin) and hydrocodone - caused more deaths than cocaine and heroin combined. The opioid epidemic has killed more than 100,000 people since 1999, more than U.S. military deaths during the Vietnam war.
Yet a broader view among pediatricians is that addiction risks for children properly prescribed the drug are manageable.
“We’ve been using (OxyContin) for over 10 years,” said Dr. Steven Weisman, pain management director of the Children’s Hospital of Wisconsin. “And we haven’t had any problems with addiction or diversion” of the prescriptions to addicted family members or to the street for resale, he said.
Weisman, along with Krane and Galinkin, received consulting fees from Purdue in recent years. Their hospitals get paid by Purdue to do the trial but there is no direct personal financial benefit to doctors, they said. Purdue is working with many of the nation’s top pediatric pain experts for the trial.
Krane said he’s not worried that Purdue will aggressively push OxyContin on pediatricians. The bad press, fines and criminal convictions in 2007 have changed the game for Purdue, he said.
“From top to bottom, I think they’ve learned from that experience and … they can’t get away with that again,” he said.
He told The Daily he would be “astounded” if OxyContin prescriptions for children rose by more than “1 or 2 percent” if the drug were to get FDA approval.
However, he conceded, it’s possible that even a tiny increase in the rate of prescriptions could do harm.
“We are possibly opening the door to (OxyContin) being abused by a younger, more vulnerable population,” Krane said.
Karen.Keller@thedaily.com@karenakeller
What is codependency addiction?
ADDICTION BLOG By Lisa Espich
What Does Codependency Mean?
Are you wondering, “Am I codependent in a relationship?” Simply put, codependency is an emotional and behavioral condition that results in unhealthy relationships. Some of the negative patterns that develop include enabling, denial, low self-esteem, and control issues. Codependency is also sometimes called “relationship addiction.”
In families that are dealing with an addicted member, codependency is a common problem. It is difficult to be in a relationship with an addict and not fall into codependent behaviors. While these patterns don’t happen overnight, most people who live with an addict for a sustained period of time eventually take on codependent tendencies. How to stop a codependent relationship takes time, awareness, and effort.
What Are Codependent Behaviors?
So what do codependents do? What typically happens is, as the addict gets worse, the family members become mentally and physically unhealthy as well. They spend sleepless nights worrying, suffer from stress-related illness, lie to avoid shame or embarrassment, become financially strained, and grow increasingly resentful toward the addict. This is why addiction is often called a family disease.
While there are many destructive patterns involved with codependency, two of the most common are enabling and denial. Let’s take a closer look at these two behaviors:
1. What Are Enabling Behaviors?
When somebody you care about is suffering with an illness or a disease you naturally want to help. As a result, loved ones often step in to save the addict from the devastating consequences of their actions. This is called enabling. It is difficult to be in a relationship with an addict and not get sucked into enabling behavior.
Family members believe they are doing the right things when they help to save the addict’sjob, help him or her to stay out of jail, help to pay their overdue bills, or save them from whatever horrific thing is getting ready to happen. But, in most cases, it’s not helping. Instead it is making it easier for the addict to continue drinking or using drugs because the consequences aren’t bad enough to convince him or her to stop.
If loved ones can learn to let the crisis happen for the addict, the consequences could be enough to convince the addict to accept help. So how can somebody love an addict without stepping in and enabling the addiction? You do this by treating the addict with respect (expecting him or her to handle their own responsibilities), getting educated to understandaddiction, and offering hope and words of encouragement.
2. How Is Denial A Drug?
Along with enabling comes the behavior of denial. The addict denies his or her problem, the family denies how bad things have gotten, and emotional or psychological abuse is often denied as well.
When family members refuse to admit that the addiction is causing serious health, relationship, and financial problems – this is called denial. Denial is a defense mechanism. Sometimes we are faced with something that is too uncomfortable to accept, so we reject it, insisting that it is not true despite evidence.
As addiction becomes more severe, the family’s denial may get worse as well, until the problems become so obvious that denial is no longer possible.
Help Getting Over Codependency
If you have a loved one struggling with addiction, and you have fallen into these codependent patterns, now is the time to reach out for help. If you can’t find the courage to do that, then how can you expect the addict in your life to find the courage? Set the example and lead the way to positive change.
Family support groups, such as Al-Anon, are one of the best forms of support available. Through these groups you will learn how to handle the challenges of living with an addict, learn to set healthy boundaries, and discover how to create an environment that encourages recovery.
Tuesday, July 3, 2012
Recovery Connections: PAIN KILLER DEATHS TRIPLED IN TEN YEARS
Recovery Connections: PAIN KILLER DEATHS TRIPLED IN TEN YEARS: By Will Godfrey THE FIX According to a new government report, an epidemic of prescription painkiller abuse is causing more fatalitie...
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