Hi 4C Women,
Statement #12 for me is all about self-esteem, believing in ourselves and having confidence that when we say we are competent women, those words are our truth. Last year I listed 3 questions and I’d like to list them again. I always ask women in the group to date anything they write about. For me, it helps to see how much personal growth I have obtained and what additional work I need to do to gain the strength, insight and courage I desire.
I am worthwhile because…
I deserve …
I practice Statement #12 by doing …
Part of gaining competence is the willingness to change and here are 3 additional questions:
Do I purposely take action to promote my own well-being?
Am I truly open to new ideas/change?
Do I make my own decisions or do I allow other people to direct the course of my life? That last question was how I lived my life before WFS. I depended on my ex and those who intimated me to make my life choices. Drinking quieted the noise in my head that nagged at me to speak my voice yet I thought I was inadequate so who was I to give my opinion, my ideas, my differing thoughts? Karen wrote a powerful message a while back and it has stayed with me: "Fighting for myself instead of against, feelings of competency emerged."
We are bonded in fighting for ourselves to be the competent woman we really are and believing in our hearts that we have much to give life and ourselves! Your 4C sister