Saturday, December 14, 2013

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December 14 v 7   TWELVE STEPPING WITH POWER IN THE PROVERB

 Go from the presence of a foolish man,
When you do not perceive in him the lips of knowledge.

STEP :  9 ; I will make direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
    
Resentment ,bitterness  ,grudges , unforgivenes and I could keep going ,but these emotions are poison to someone in recovery. Carrying these around will slow your recovery and could push you into a relapse that is why step nine must be done.For me it was easier when it was explained ,get the junk out of the trunk.Carrying these emotions around will poison everything in your life.  Making amends is intended to make the ones you hurt feel better including yourself  but don't get discouraged when some wont accept your apology . Forgiveness of self first and then making amends to the ones you hurt is one of the most liberating experiences in your recovery, Time will heal the relationship as it did for me and my daughter and parents. The Proverb teaches get rid of your foolishness and you will receive knowledge.Step nine teaches humility forgiveness and freedom.

Demi Lovato opens up about heavy use of cocaine, alcohol




By Christie D'Zurilla

December 10, 2013, 2:39 p.m.




Demi Lovato may have been shy a few years back about her reasons for going to rehab, but these days she's holding nothing back, telling all about the drug and alcohol abuse that saw her hitting bottom when she was only 19 years old.


Cocaine every half hour and a Sprite bottle full of vodka were the toxic cherries on top of her eating-disorder sundae, she told "Access Hollywood" in an exclusive interview she did Monday accompanied by her mother, Dianna De La Garza.

"With my drug use, I could hide it to where I would sneak drugs," the now 21-year-old said. "I couldn’t go 30 minutes to an hour without cocaine and I would bring it on airplanes."

She said she would "smuggle it basically" and wait until the rest of First Class tuned out, and then she'd sneak to the bathroom to do it, even though she had a sober companion keeping an eye on her.

De La Garza said she had an idea that her daughter was doing drugs but "for a long time I was in denial." She said she didn't actually see Demi, and wanted to believe her daughter when she said things were OK.

Lovato said she hit bottom when she was on the way to the airport at 9 a.m. with a Sprite bottle filled with vodka, headed back to a sober-living facility she was staying at and throwing up in the car. She said she realized that was alcoholic behavior.

"When I hit that moment I was like, it’s no longer fun when you’re doing it alone," "The X Factor" judge told "Access."

Mother and daughter also learned they had something in common during Demi's struggles: Both had eating disorders, and both had to deal with them.

Lovato said hers began well before her teen years, when she was 8 or 9, starting with binge eating then flipping to starving herself and making herself throw up.

"It got really difficult [and] I would throw up and it would just be blood and it was something that I realized if I don’t stop this, I am going to die," she said.

Fortunately, Lovato got the help she needed -- and both women said they're now stronger as a family for it.
http://www.latimes.com/entertainment/gossip/la-et-mg-demi-lovato-drugs-cocaine-alcohol-20131210,0,3778902.story#ixzz2nS4uQKcd

Ibogaine Hits Mainstream TV | The Fix

Ibogaine Hits Mainstream TV | The Fix

Friday, December 13, 2013

Boston Mayor Spills the Beans


Newly elected Mayor of Boston Marty Walsh made no secret of his recovery from addiction during his election campaign. Could this be a refreshing trend of political transparency, or an appeal to a growing voter base? Or both?



11/26/13





On November 5th, Boston elected a new mayor named Martin J. Walsh. Formerly a state senator from Dorchester, Walsh is a progressive Democrat with strong ties to labor unions. He’s also a recovering alcoholic.

Marty Walsh acknowledged that some people might not have voted for him as a result. But these people were clearly in the minority. In one interview Walsh explained, “I don’t really care who knows I’m an alcoholic because if it helps someone else .., then they’ll ask me for help if they need it.” He even shared some unsavory details about driving drunk and getting thrown out of a Bruins game.

While campaigning, Mr. Walsh answered calls from addicts and alcoholics looking for support. In his time in the state senate he advocated for increased funding for human services and stricter regulations on “sober houses.” With 18 years of sobriety, he still attends Alcoholics Anonymous meetings regularly and helps those still suffering from addiction to find beds in detoxes.

Just days before Walsh’s election, a drug scandal erupted surrounding Toronto’s Major Robert Ford who was video taped smoking crack while extremely intoxicated. The conservative mayor had been elected with a campaign that emphasized his role as a “family man” and “authentic everyman.” George Smitherman, Ford’s openly gay liberal opponent, admitted to past drug abuse up front. The Ford campaign used this, as well as Smitherman’s sexuality, against him during the mayoral race. Now that Ford’s drug use has come to light, the situation seems pretty ironic.

Walsh’s opponent, Boston City Councilor John R. Connolly, thankfully didn’t stoop so low as to run a similar smear campaign. Although that might not have worked anyhow; Walsh’s campaign adeptly spun his “story of redemption” to highlight the candidate’s altruism and sincerity.

During his campaign, Mayor-Elect Walsh explained his appeal in an interview, “I think the people of Boston are going to elect a mayor who they can best relate to, they can trust, and they feel will represent their best interests. If you have a family that is being devastated by substance abuse, I don’t think it matters whether it is old Boston or new Boston. If you have economic problems and you are about to lose your house, I don’t think it matters whether it is old Boston or new Boston.”

Marty Walsh’s personal stake in these issues created a strong campaign and a believable commitment to progressive policy.

But all the publicity regarding the new mayor’s status as a recovering alcoholic and A.A. member has raised questions about the idea of anonymity.

Although Mayor Walsh did not use his A.A. membership as part of his political platform, it is known through interviews that he is a member. Other A.A. members have broken their anonymity to the press to come out and advocate for him.

According to reports, a great deal of the people who volunteered and work for his campaign were A.A. members themselves, including the campaign's policy coordinator, Brendan Little. The campaign has also seen support from Kennedy and addiction memoir writer Christopher Lawford.

But in a social climate where being an alcoholic in recovery is no longer a hindrance, what are the dangers that come along with public figures associated with A.A.?

David M., a New York A.A. with 27 years of sobriety, explained that while he doesn’t wholeheartedly disagree with Mayor Walsh’s decision, it might pose some problems: “We are all prone to relapse. If a public figure [known to be in A.A.] has a slip, people might look at that and say the program doesn’t work.”

Though Marty Walsh does not, himself, bring up his sobriety in interviews, he has acknowledged it when asked. He has also spoken of his fear of what people “in the program” would think of his membership becoming known. And he has been sure to draw the line insisting, “We’re not organizing in the halls of A.A. That’s not appropriate.”

A.A.’s break their anonymity in their personal lives at their own discretion. The best way to attract would-be A.A.’s is to show them the transformative power of the program through their interactions with current members. This often calls for a break in anonymity at the “person-to-person” level.

In the formative days of A.A., Dr. Bob explained there were two ways to cause trouble with one’s anonymity: “The A.A. who hides his identity from his fellow A.A. by using only a [first] name violates the Tradition just as much as the AA who permits his name to appear in the press in connection with matters pertaining to A.A.”

Of course, those were different times, when both alcoholism and membership in A.A. were viewed as moral weaknesses. The majority believed that alcoholism was a sign of a deficient character - that the alcoholic could stop drinking as soon as he wanted to. As an extension of this view, the recovering alcoholic’s further dependence on a society of mutual support for his sobriety seemed equally absurd and weak.

Today, the climate surrounding addiction and recovery is starkly changed. During the 1980’s, the American Medical Association officially established alcoholism as a disease in their treatment policies, and today, most treat it accordingly. Many fear if a public figure gets too personally tied with A.A., opinions surrounding him could be conflated with opinions surrounding A.A.

A.A.’s most notable public figure was co-founder Bill Wilson, who became widely known before much about anonymity was established or understood. Fortunately, Wilson stayed sober until his death; however, some still point out his personal faults to discredit AA as a whole.

While this may be true to some extent, in America today Alcoholics Anonymous is synonymous with recovery from alcoholism. Doctors refer people to the program and courts even mandate people to meetings as a part of sentencing. A.A. is a veritable and powerful institution with wide public support.

If a public figure known to be an A.A. member were to “have a slip,” it would not bring the same disaster on the program, as it would have in even the 1950’s or 1960’s. Now the public has a better understanding of the disease of addiction – its recurring and cyclical effects.

Let’s say a person has a friend in recovery, and this friend relapses after being sober in A.A. This could discredit A.A. in this person’s eyes as much as, if not more, than a public figure’s relapse. Both situations can do harm. The most important difference is that a public figure is, well, more public. More people would be affected.

On the other hand, a public figure who is in recovery could also show people that there is hope for those afflicted with addiction. Mayor-Elect Walsh has in no way sought to represent A.A. as a figurehead nor to turn his campaign into a crusade for the fellowship. His mere presence in the public spear could give hope to many.

Several Boston A.A. members have also broken their own anonymity to the press to come out in support of Mayor Walsh. They see the recovery community’s new role as a “demographic” as exciting and empowering. Though Marty Walsh has seldom reached out to these folks, they were attracted to supporting him because of his own service in the fellowship. They know Mayor Walsh is sincere because he played a personal role in their “second chance at life.”

Peter Barbuto, an A.A. member and Walsh advocate, said during an interview, “Like the blacks and gays are now -- they didn’t have any power and then they came out, and now politicians say, ‘We have to get the blacks and the gays.’ One of these days they’re going to be saying, ‘We’ve got to get the recovery community.'”

With the increase of visibility and understanding of addiction recovery, the idea of the recovery community as a “demographic” is new and untested. This community is in no way homogenous in politics, race, or religion. Those in recovery are not categorically Democrat or Republican, pro-big business or pro-labor, pro-gay marriage or against. They may don’t even have the same views on how to treat substance abuse in the first place.

On the other hand, in close races where undecided voters make the difference, appealing to the “recovery” demographic may be an effective strategy. In Boston’s first contentious mayoral race in several years, this “demographic” certainly helped Walsh gather volunteers to back his campaign and perhaps gave him an edge over City Councilor Connolly.

As one Connolly campaign official commented, “[Walsh] had more money. He had more bodies. And he had more power.”

In the case of A.A., politics is decidedly an “outside issue.” The 10th A.A. Tradition states that “Alcoholics Anonymous has no opinion on outside issues; hence the A.A. name ought never be drawn into public controversy.” This affords the fellowship a protection from going the way of the Washingtonians, a 19th century temperance movement which dissolved because of its involvement in the larger temperance movement, abolition, and other political issues.

The argument could be made that A.A. and the “recovery community” are two distinct entities, however closely tied. On the other hand, perhaps this heterogeneous “demographic” would be better viewed as a set of potential advocates rather than a singular voting block.

As far as the results of Mayor-Elect Walsh’s anonymity being broken, only time will tell. Anonymity is an evolving concept. New challenges are certainly ahead, but a sober person in a respected office could well lessen the social stigma of alcoholism.

There are always personal risks when running for political office—Marty Walsh managed to turn his biggest liability into his biggest asset. It is actions like this that are changing the face of addiction in America.

Meg Williams is a regular contributor to The Fix. She last wrote about the shrinking Big Book.

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December 13 v 18 POWER IN THE PROVERB

Poverty and shame will come to him who disdains correction,
But he who regards a rebuke will be honored.

STEP 10 :  Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.
 Disdain - the feeling that someone or something is unworthy of one's consideration or respect; 
Rebuke - an expression of sharp disapproval or criticism.
 I posted the definition of these two specific words so I could be sure I understood whats trying to be said in the Proverb. Poverty and shame, well we can be poor in other ways not just finicial and I am sure we all know what shame is and how it makes us feel. The Proverb is telling us if we think we are too good for someone elses opinion or correction then we are still hard headed  and not ready for Step 10. Step Ten should come easy for us, we got some good clean time, we have gotten most of the skeletons out of the closet, mended our relationshops and when our sponsor yells and rebukes us we dont hang up on them anymore. We realize rebukes are not for tearing us down, but to help us see our mistakes so we can make change in our lives, if we can do that then pride is defeated opening the door for honor peace and recovery.