Hi 4C Women,
I love the 4 ways to give yourself love that Karen shared in this message. Giving love has always been a lot easier for me than receiving love. A question arose in our group about this Statement - "What is the way you like love to be shown?" I thought about that and found there are several answers depending on the person and the situation. It could be a simple thank you in appreciation for something I did or offering help without my asking because the person saw the need. Recognizing what fills your love tank is crucial. It can prevent you from seeking love, as the song says, "in all the wrong places." I know I did that for a long time. I am so grateful that I learned about self-care in WFS and therapy.
Self-care taught me to first love and respect myself, learn to be my own best friend, set healthy boundaries, stop the comparison game and accept me for who I was at any given moment as I worked on my sobriety.
Here are some additional questions to ponder:
1. How can I practice more compassionate self-care?
2. Who else would benefit from loving myself even a little bit more?
3. How open am I to receiving love?
4. Have you learned to trust yourself and others in receiving love to lessen the fear of rejection?
5. Are you struggling with being a people-pleaser?
6. Have you learned to respect and value yourself, forgiving and healing from your past?
7. Who is part of your love circle?
I encourage you to take the time to answer these questions. Perhaps you would be willing to share your answers in a group meeting or privately with someone you feel safe to trust with your deepest feelings. Hopefully these answers will guide you in living/practicing Statement #7 to its fullest.
Bonded in compassionate self-care,
4C WFS Member