Sunday, September 4, 2016

STEP WORK JUST FOR TODAY

September 4 2016

STEP 4 Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.(AA BIG BOOK)

Lamentations 3:40 Let us examine and probe our ways, And let us return to the LORD.(GODS BIG BOOK)

By Joseph Dickerson/Recovery Connections

Saturday, September 3, 2016

Step work 9 -3

STEP WORK JUST FOR TODAY
September 3 2016

STEP 3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.(AA BIG BOOK )

Psalm 25 v 3
I always look to the Lord for help.Only he can free me from my troubles.
(GODS BIG BOOK )
BY JOSEPH DICKERSON / RECOVERY CONNECTIONS 2O16

Friday, September 2, 2016

STEP WORK JUST FOR TODAY

September 2 2016

STEP 2 Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. (AA Big Book)

Matthew 11 v 28 “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.

Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your soul.

For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”

(GODS BIG BOOK)

By Joseph Dickerson/Recovery Connections 2016

Monday, August 29, 2016

Step Work

STEP WORK JUST FOR TODAY August 29 2016

We admitted we were powerless over chemical substances - that our lives had become unmanageable.

Psalm 107 v 14
He brought them out of darkness, the utter darkness and broke away their chains.

By Joseph Dickerson / Recovery Connections 2016

Saturday, August 27, 2016

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Emotions in Early Recovery: "You Can't Heal What You Can't Feel"

During early recovery we often find ourselves raw. But you can't heal what you can't feel. There are no quick fixes. Learn how to let it go.

I've shared with lots of folks in early recovery the adage, "The good thing about being sober is that you feel more ...and the bad thing about being sober is that you feel more."

We numbed ourselves so much for so long. In early recovery (and at other points in our journey when stress and fears run high) we find ourselves emotionally raw. Experiencing the highs and lows of our emotions can be completely overwhelming. Whether you're on a "pink cloud" or in a dark place, the good news is that this too shall pass.

Add This to Your Toolbox:

H.A.L.T.

It stands for Hungry, Angry, Lonely and Tired.

H.A.L.T. works both as a preventative measure and a diagnostic tool. Recovery wisdom dictates that we must not allow ourselves to accrue too much of theseand that when we find ourselves overwhelmed we can ask which of these we are. It's simple and effective. It's also something our emotions can throw a wrench into.

We come to see that what we hunger for is much more than just food.
We realize that anger never travels alone and that there is always at least one other emotion present (Hint: It's usually one that requires vulnerability to express and anger masks it).
We know that even in the company of good people we can be lonely when we shut down or deny ourselves opportunities to connect.
Tired is perhaps the hardest one. It's more than fatigue, it's being drained physically, emotionally, mentally, and/or spiritually. It's an emptiness that demands to be filled and a spirit that must be replenished.

We urge folks to consider what sustains them and to consider that growing spiritually is the key to manageability.

Identifying and Coping

Most of us in early recovery are immature emotionally. We may be very good at managing external things, yet struggle to regulate our internal experiences (emotions, thoughts, memories). We often feel "squirrelly" or "antsy."

Anxiety is extremely common in recovery. We struggle to feel safe inside our own skin. Many of us experience social anxiety, obsessions, compulsions, and occasionalbouts of panic. Sobriety forces us to be acutely aware of the very things we've been running and hiding from.

There is no way to let go of pain in a way that doesn't hurt. There's no way to face fear without being afraid and there's no way to release anger without getting angry.

Identifying and coping are key. I recommend to those I serve that they check in with themselves frequently. This is as simple as asking...

"what am I doing?" and
"how am I doing?"

If we are completely honest with ourselves, we can then ask, "What would I recommend to a friend in my shoes?"

Reaching out, using healthy self talk, journaling, prayer and meditation are foundational to our stability.

"I Let It Go"

This expression most often means that we're ignoring it and trying our best to pretend we're not messed up about it. Acceptance and forgiveness hinge upon releasing our resentments.

Again, there is no way to let go of pain in a way that doesn't hurt. There's no way to face fear without being afraid and there's no way to release anger without getting angry. You have to feel it to let it go. The most frustrating aspect of this is that letting it go is rarely a one time event. It took us years to get here and there are no quick fixes.

"I Gave It to God"

In order to "turn it over" we must first be willing to let it go (see above). I respect what any person's faith dictates. My Pentecostal friends have an expression that, "God is a gentleman." To me this means that our Higher Power won't force a course of action that impinges upon our free will. Surrender is equal parts desperation and willingness. In addition to experiencing and expressing our emotions, turning things over to our Higher Power requires acceptance of powerless and acknowledging that only with grace will we achieve our goals.

When we ask our Higher Power to remove things like past pain or character defects, we receive the needed assistance. This most often comes in the form of people placed in our paths to guide us through the next part of the journey. There does not seem to be any instant gratification. Transformation is a process.

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